Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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My main insecurities

EmotionalGeek

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I have some main insecurities when I want to approach woman. I know I should just "fvck it" and go for it but it is easier said then done. Those unsecurities are universal for day/night time, ordered by how serious they are:

1. My age. I feel like to old for this and I try to find woman around my age. When I see woman on the street I immediately try to assess her age. My eyeseight is not perfect (even though I have glasses) and it alway take mu so much time that I miss oportunity. Even when I see girl clearly I am not able to tell whether he is not to young -- it is hard to assess age quite often.

2. "What will people say". I know that I should not care about other people but when I think about approaching I immediately become ultra aware of my surrondings. Even if someone is walking behind me back I can hear him and "sense" him.

3. When it is not 1. or 2. then I am sometimes paralyzed by irrational fear. If I think something it is what I will say to the girl and how long will I be able to maintain convo.


All of them happen even when I see girl is interested (eye contact, proximity). Please share your way of getting read of such or similar insecurities.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Urbanyst

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Your goal should be results not being comfortable.

I would not be where I am today if I never did things that made me uncomfortable. The best way to expend your comfort zone is to push yourself.
 

Roober

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Work at your limits and occasionally cross it. Your limits will get a bit further each time. For example, you approach a girl and take notice of others around you and realize they may look or don't give a $hit. Next time, you realize that is the same.
 
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