"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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My main insecurities

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EmotionalGeek

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I have some main insecurities when I want to approach woman. I know I should just "fvck it" and go for it but it is easier said then done. Those unsecurities are universal for day/night time, ordered by how serious they are:

1. My age. I feel like to old for this and I try to find woman around my age. When I see woman on the street I immediately try to assess her age. My eyeseight is not perfect (even though I have glasses) and it alway take mu so much time that I miss oportunity. Even when I see girl clearly I am not able to tell whether he is not to young -- it is hard to assess age quite often.

2. "What will people say". I know that I should not care about other people but when I think about approaching I immediately become ultra aware of my surrondings. Even if someone is walking behind me back I can hear him and "sense" him.

3. When it is not 1. or 2. then I am sometimes paralyzed by irrational fear. If I think something it is what I will say to the girl and how long will I be able to maintain convo.


All of them happen even when I see girl is interested (eye contact, proximity). Please share your way of getting read of such or similar insecurities.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Your goal should be results not being comfortable.

I would not be where I am today if I never did things that made me uncomfortable. The best way to expend your comfort zone is to push yourself.
 
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Work at your limits and occasionally cross it. Your limits will get a bit further each time. For example, you approach a girl and take notice of others around you and realize they may look or don't give a $hit. Next time, you realize that is the same.
 
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