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My main insecurities

EmotionalGeek

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I have some main insecurities when I want to approach woman. I know I should just "fvck it" and go for it but it is easier said then done. Those unsecurities are universal for day/night time, ordered by how serious they are:

1. My age. I feel like to old for this and I try to find woman around my age. When I see woman on the street I immediately try to assess her age. My eyeseight is not perfect (even though I have glasses) and it alway take mu so much time that I miss oportunity. Even when I see girl clearly I am not able to tell whether he is not to young -- it is hard to assess age quite often.

2. "What will people say". I know that I should not care about other people but when I think about approaching I immediately become ultra aware of my surrondings. Even if someone is walking behind me back I can hear him and "sense" him.

3. When it is not 1. or 2. then I am sometimes paralyzed by irrational fear. If I think something it is what I will say to the girl and how long will I be able to maintain convo.


All of them happen even when I see girl is interested (eye contact, proximity). Please share your way of getting read of such or similar insecurities.
 

Urbanyst

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Your goal should be results not being comfortable.

I would not be where I am today if I never did things that made me uncomfortable. The best way to expend your comfort zone is to push yourself.
 

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Work at your limits and occasionally cross it. Your limits will get a bit further each time. For example, you approach a girl and take notice of others around you and realize they may look or don't give a $hit. Next time, you realize that is the same.
 
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