"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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My interest is too high

phil2015

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Hi

Quick question;

What is the best/easiest way to lower ones own interest level in a particular girl?

I'm in a situation, where I'm dating a girl who has flaked a few times, is constantly busy and seems to communicate with frustrating slowness.

I haven't gone/done anything AFC or needy yet, but if I'm honest I do miss her etc inside.....

Is there any way I can alter this and feel less needy/insecure?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Heisenberg

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My post, and everyone below mine, are going to say some variation of the same two words:

spin. plates.
 

Building_and_Loan

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As someone who's been there too many times myself, my only advice is this:

Only care about her as much as she cares about you. It sucks and it's tough, but it's life.
 

El Payaso

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phil2015 said:
Hi

Quick question;

What is the best/easiest way to lower ones own interest level in a particular girl?

I'm in a situation, where I'm dating a girl who has flaked a few times, is constantly busy and seems to communicate with frustrating slowness.

I haven't gone/done anything AFC or needy yet, but if I'm honest I do miss her etc inside.....

Is there any way I can alter this and feel less needy/insecure?
No girl is ever "too busy" or texts slowly when she has a high IL in a guy.
 

ImTheDoubleGreatest!

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Get pissed off at yourself for being a wimp. I'm not saying this as an insult by the way. You need to feel like a wimp or loser because of this situation, get pissed off at the world, at her, and yourself because she took your dignity away by implanting herself in your mind. Then use that anger as motivation to make you change yourself into a better man. A stronger one. A tougher one.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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phil2015 said:
Hi

Quick question;

What is the best/easiest way to lower ones own interest level in a particular girl?
Getting a life and other interests beyond girls. Spinning more plates.
 

salinechow

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Only because nobody said this. Go to the gym and exhaust yourself. You will gain perspective through clarity that the gym provides. It clears your head, makes you feel stronger, and snaps that "cycle" of worship that can develop from meeting a girl that really moves you.

I actually have a case of oneitis developing myself and going to the gym helps me in all the ways I just described. You can actually get to tired to give a f^ck.

O and spin plates. I am actually having a harder time of this now that I really found a girl to connect with but I know its necessary and when you do it its still really fun.
 
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