My interest is too high

[phil2015]

Hi

Quick question;

What is the best/easiest way to lower ones own interest level in a particular girl?

I'm in a situation, where I'm dating a girl who has flaked a few times, is constantly busy and seems to communicate with frustrating slowness.

I haven't gone/done anything AFC or needy yet, but if I'm honest I do miss her etc inside.....

Is there any way I can alter this and feel less needy/insecure?

 

[Heisenberg]

My post, and everyone below mine, are going to say some variation of the same two words:

spin. plates.

 

[Building_and_Loan]

As someone who's been there too many times myself, my only advice is this:

Only care about her as much as she cares about you. It sucks and it's tough, but it's life.

 

[El Payaso]

Hi

Quick question;

What is the best/easiest way to lower ones own interest level in a particular girl?

I'm in a situation, where I'm dating a girl who has flaked a few times, is constantly busy and seems to communicate with frustrating slowness.

I haven't gone/done anything AFC or needy yet, but if I'm honest I do miss her etc inside.....

Is there any way I can alter this and feel less needy/insecure?

No girl is ever "too busy" or texts slowly when she has a high IL in a guy.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Get pissed off at yourself for being a wimp. I'm not saying this as an insult by the way. You need to feel like a wimp or loser because of this situation, get pissed off at the world, at her, and yourself because she took your dignity away by implanting herself in your mind. Then use that anger as motivation to make you change yourself into a better man. A stronger one. A tougher one.

 

[Bokanovsky]

Hi

Quick question;

What is the best/easiest way to lower ones own interest level in a particular girl?

Getting a life and other interests beyond girls. Spinning more plates.

 

[salinechow]

Only because nobody said this. Go to the gym and exhaust yourself. You will gain perspective through clarity that the gym provides. It clears your head, makes you feel stronger, and snaps that "cycle" of worship that can develop from meeting a girl that really moves you.

I actually have a case of oneitis developing myself and going to the gym helps me in all the ways I just described. You can actually get to tired to give a f^ck.

O and spin plates. I am actually having a harder time of this now that I really found a girl to connect with but I know its necessary and when you do it its still really fun.