"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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My grandpa just passed

theunflushables

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My grandpa passed, earlier this evening so in a fitting send off, I am drinking whisky and listening to Celtic music. Drinking of course causes thinking. I was thinking about how I never really told him I loved him. I did but his closed off nature made it near impossible to feel comfortable expressing any emotion around him. More often than not conversations were limited to a few sentences.

Now, I am regretting that I wasn't as close to him as I would want. I just want to pass on some words, if you love somebody, make sure that you tell them and live your life to the fullest.

Now back to listening to "Danny Boy".
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Desert Fox

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You know there's a thing called the phone right. It's not too late.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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theunflushables

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Thank you everyone for your thoughts and prayers, etc. Its been a hectic couple of days and there are still more to come in preperation for the funeral. Mostly its in a support role, my dad is a mess and all wrapped up with preperations that I am stepping in to help run the business he has with my grandpa.

San Jose, it may feel weird or awkward to start getting in touch with your family, but if you do want to be closer to them you need to take that first step.
 
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