"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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My grandpa just passed

theunflushables

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My grandpa passed, earlier this evening so in a fitting send off, I am drinking whisky and listening to Celtic music. Drinking of course causes thinking. I was thinking about how I never really told him I loved him. I did but his closed off nature made it near impossible to feel comfortable expressing any emotion around him. More often than not conversations were limited to a few sentences.

Now, I am regretting that I wasn't as close to him as I would want. I just want to pass on some words, if you love somebody, make sure that you tell them and live your life to the fullest.

Now back to listening to "Danny Boy".
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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You know there's a thing called the phone right. It's not too late.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Thank you everyone for your thoughts and prayers, etc. Its been a hectic couple of days and there are still more to come in preperation for the funeral. Mostly its in a support role, my dad is a mess and all wrapped up with preperations that I am stepping in to help run the business he has with my grandpa.

San Jose, it may feel weird or awkward to start getting in touch with your family, but if you do want to be closer to them you need to take that first step.
 
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