"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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My girlfriend..the female version of a DJ..your thoughts

shark

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Yah it started off where she seemed to be the total AFC. I used my DJ tactics and she became the chasing, AFC girl. Well we were together and after some months I stop being too tough of a DJ and started showing a little more effection and being nicer while still keeping my distance, and making her chase a little.

Anyway, more and more she is starting to turn into the DJ. She seems to ALWAYS be busy..and she is where I am usually pretending (i do a good job of it). She'll go somehwhere and not care if people are with her she'll just go and have fun doing whatever. She doesn't call or msg me excessivly. She acts upset when i do something mean or wrong, but she'll never let it ruin her night TOO much. Only anti-DJ thing of her is she'll apoligze whenever she is "kinda" wrong, as where if I am wrong or w/e..i NEVER EVER apoligize and get away with it.

Now how do I handle her? Do I take someones advice who said it's OK to let her to have some of the power for some time..but then i have to take it back which balanaces the power in our relationship?

OH YEAH--im thinking about this b/c i was talking to one of my friends (not good friend) and he was her x-boyfriend and he said somtin like do you ever talk on the phone, and how she NEVER would initiate phone calls or convo.

Advice needed..thanks guys
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Tazman

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Never stop being DJ, most times it will backfire. Compromise is good sometimes, but you should maintain your position of dominance at all times without being too "controlling."
 

shark

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I feel like i am mainting my power, however, before it was me with power + her kinda chasing me more. Now theres not much chase on her part and DJ techniques from both of us..

I feel like were both acting cold towards eachother.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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