"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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My girlfriend..the female version of a DJ..your thoughts

shark

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Yah it started off where she seemed to be the total AFC. I used my DJ tactics and she became the chasing, AFC girl. Well we were together and after some months I stop being too tough of a DJ and started showing a little more effection and being nicer while still keeping my distance, and making her chase a little.

Anyway, more and more she is starting to turn into the DJ. She seems to ALWAYS be busy..and she is where I am usually pretending (i do a good job of it). She'll go somehwhere and not care if people are with her she'll just go and have fun doing whatever. She doesn't call or msg me excessivly. She acts upset when i do something mean or wrong, but she'll never let it ruin her night TOO much. Only anti-DJ thing of her is she'll apoligze whenever she is "kinda" wrong, as where if I am wrong or w/e..i NEVER EVER apoligize and get away with it.

Now how do I handle her? Do I take someones advice who said it's OK to let her to have some of the power for some time..but then i have to take it back which balanaces the power in our relationship?

OH YEAH--im thinking about this b/c i was talking to one of my friends (not good friend) and he was her x-boyfriend and he said somtin like do you ever talk on the phone, and how she NEVER would initiate phone calls or convo.

Advice needed..thanks guys
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Never stop being DJ, most times it will backfire. Compromise is good sometimes, but you should maintain your position of dominance at all times without being too "controlling."
 

shark

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I feel like i am mainting my power, however, before it was me with power + her kinda chasing me more. Now theres not much chase on her part and DJ techniques from both of us..

I feel like were both acting cold towards eachother.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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