"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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My girlfriend..the female version of a DJ..your thoughts

shark

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Yah it started off where she seemed to be the total AFC. I used my DJ tactics and she became the chasing, AFC girl. Well we were together and after some months I stop being too tough of a DJ and started showing a little more effection and being nicer while still keeping my distance, and making her chase a little.

Anyway, more and more she is starting to turn into the DJ. She seems to ALWAYS be busy..and she is where I am usually pretending (i do a good job of it). She'll go somehwhere and not care if people are with her she'll just go and have fun doing whatever. She doesn't call or msg me excessivly. She acts upset when i do something mean or wrong, but she'll never let it ruin her night TOO much. Only anti-DJ thing of her is she'll apoligze whenever she is "kinda" wrong, as where if I am wrong or w/e..i NEVER EVER apoligize and get away with it.

Now how do I handle her? Do I take someones advice who said it's OK to let her to have some of the power for some time..but then i have to take it back which balanaces the power in our relationship?

OH YEAH--im thinking about this b/c i was talking to one of my friends (not good friend) and he was her x-boyfriend and he said somtin like do you ever talk on the phone, and how she NEVER would initiate phone calls or convo.

Advice needed..thanks guys
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Tazman

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Never stop being DJ, most times it will backfire. Compromise is good sometimes, but you should maintain your position of dominance at all times without being too "controlling."
 

shark

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I feel like i am mainting my power, however, before it was me with power + her kinda chasing me more. Now theres not much chase on her part and DJ techniques from both of us..

I feel like were both acting cold towards eachother.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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