"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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My girlfriend is telling me I am playing hard to get

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So she SMS me before saying

"U really r trying to play harrd to get arent you!"

We have been together for nearly a month now. Everything is going great. I'm happy.

How do I respond to this?

I haven't seen her in two days (half because I am playing hard to get, half because I have been busy).

Should I see her tonight or make her suffer until tomorrow. As an added bonus she was telling me last night she was craving me, etc ...really wanting me bad.

How do I respond to this situation? Do I lighten up or continue my status as more important. I saw her on Saturday night, it is now Monday.

Thanks, any help on my direction from here would be good!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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nishbuk

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I'm not an expert...but if it's not broke, don't fix it! Just keep doing what you are doing until/if/when you become more serious with the girl. It sounds like things are going just the way that you want them to. :)
 

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Keep doin what you're doing. It shows you have what we in the industry call a LIFE :)

Meet with her soon, but on your own terms. Then take advantage of her "missing you" by getting some well deserved action ;)
 

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she was telling me last night she was craving me

good work

"U really r trying to play harrd to get arent you!"

thats ******** for : " you are a challenge and i love it "

keep doing what you are doing :)


Lost In Translation :D

**AUSTRALIAN STREET PIMP**
 

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Originally posted by Lost In Translation
Blazer
she was telling me last night she was craving me

good work

"U really r trying to play harrd to get arent you!"

thats ******** for : " you are a challenge and i love it "

keep doing what you are doing :)


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Cheers for replying dude. I've read some of ya work - impressed. :p.

Basically I am sort of a recovering AFC. I haven't read this stuff religiously but I reckon I have picked it up quite easily.

Not long ago I was in the reverse of this situation ...I was quite demanding and I could tell she was in control. I had to change things - it's obvious now I have.

I thought I was on the right track. I'll keep being inconsistent in regards to everything (dates, gifts ...none for her yet hehe, seeing her, etc).

BUT, cheers!!

She also complains that I don't buy her gifts hehe ...I won't until its her birthday (in like two months). The only thing I have brought her is a hot chocolate and ice cream - lucky her.

But I'm picking up on tricks of the trade and I'm doing things on my terms.

Cheers guys.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by Blazer
So she SMS me before saying

"U really r trying to play harrd to get arent you!"

We have been together for nearly a month now. Everything is going great. I'm happy.

How do I respond to this?


Message back this: "Do I know you?"
 

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haha fuk

when i start dating the girl I was with she use to say that alot,, I was actually just being me,,,doing nothing special ..I guess I am naturallya challenge, and thats why shes still with me ;)
 

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Re: Re: My girlfriend is telling me I am playing hard to get

Originally posted by mrRuckus
Message back this: "Do I know you?"
Remember I am going out with her ;)

That might be too much ..too borderline.
 

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Originally posted by Lost In Translation

thats ******** for : " you are a challenge and i love it "

keep doing what you are doing :)
Hard to argue with this.

Good work.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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