"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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My girlfriend is telling me I am playing hard to get

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So she SMS me before saying

"U really r trying to play harrd to get arent you!"

We have been together for nearly a month now. Everything is going great. I'm happy.

How do I respond to this?

I haven't seen her in two days (half because I am playing hard to get, half because I have been busy).

Should I see her tonight or make her suffer until tomorrow. As an added bonus she was telling me last night she was craving me, etc ...really wanting me bad.

How do I respond to this situation? Do I lighten up or continue my status as more important. I saw her on Saturday night, it is now Monday.

Thanks, any help on my direction from here would be good!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I'm not an expert...but if it's not broke, don't fix it! Just keep doing what you are doing until/if/when you become more serious with the girl. It sounds like things are going just the way that you want them to. :)
 
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Keep doin what you're doing. It shows you have what we in the industry call a LIFE :)

Meet with her soon, but on your own terms. Then take advantage of her "missing you" by getting some well deserved action ;)
 
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she was telling me last night she was craving me

good work

"U really r trying to play harrd to get arent you!"

thats ******** for : " you are a challenge and i love it "

keep doing what you are doing :)


Lost In Translation :D

**AUSTRALIAN STREET PIMP**
 
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Originally posted by Lost In Translation
Blazer
she was telling me last night she was craving me

good work

"U really r trying to play harrd to get arent you!"

thats ******** for : " you are a challenge and i love it "

keep doing what you are doing :)


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Cheers for replying dude. I've read some of ya work - impressed. :p.

Basically I am sort of a recovering AFC. I haven't read this stuff religiously but I reckon I have picked it up quite easily.

Not long ago I was in the reverse of this situation ...I was quite demanding and I could tell she was in control. I had to change things - it's obvious now I have.

I thought I was on the right track. I'll keep being inconsistent in regards to everything (dates, gifts ...none for her yet hehe, seeing her, etc).

BUT, cheers!!

She also complains that I don't buy her gifts hehe ...I won't until its her birthday (in like two months). The only thing I have brought her is a hot chocolate and ice cream - lucky her.

But I'm picking up on tricks of the trade and I'm doing things on my terms.

Cheers guys.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by Blazer
So she SMS me before saying

"U really r trying to play harrd to get arent you!"

We have been together for nearly a month now. Everything is going great. I'm happy.

How do I respond to this?
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Message back this: "Do I know you?"
 
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haha fuk

when i start dating the girl I was with she use to say that alot,, I was actually just being me,,,doing nothing special ..I guess I am naturallya challenge, and thats why shes still with me ;)
 
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Re: Re: My girlfriend is telling me I am playing hard to get

Originally posted by mrRuckus
Message back this: "Do I know you?"
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Remember I am going out with her ;)

That might be too much ..too borderline.
 
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Originally posted by Lost In Translation

thats ******** for : " you are a challenge and i love it "

keep doing what you are doing :)
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Hard to argue with this.

Good work.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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