"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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My GF doesn't Miss Me

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So when we were texting, she popped this statement:

"I don't miss you, I wonder why. Haha, stupid, I know."

At first it left me surprised. But then I realized that I didn't really miss her too! But that doesn't mean I don't love her anymore. So I replied jokingly:

"But you still love me do you, honey? ;)"

Her: "Haha, yes, hon."

So my question is, is it normal to no longer having the "i miss you" feeling? We've been dating for about 6 months, exclusive for a month. We meet once a week, but texting everyday, from morning to night (I wonder if this is the cause).
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Fela Kuti said:
So when we were texting, she popped this statement:

"I didn't miss you, I wonder why. Haha, stupid, I know."

At first it left me surprised. But then I realized that I didn't really miss her too! But that doesn't mean I don't love her anymore. So I replied jokingly:

"But you still love me do you, honey? ;)"

Her: "Haha, yes, hon."

So my question is, is it normal to no longer having the "i miss you" feeling? We've been dating for about 6 months, exclusive for a month. We meet once a week, but texting everyday, from morning to night (I wonder if this is the cause).

She is sick of you.

Dissapear from her life for awhile and make her miss you.
 

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I had this expirience. Weeks later she was attempting to manipulate me into breaking up with her because she couldn't do it herself. It's perfectly normal to have that "I miss you" feeling go away. Some chicks see it like they have to break up especially when they begin getting those feelings from another man and not you.
 
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I think I know the feeling your girl is having.

It's the feeling when my girlfriend is too clingy and then I want to get rid if her.

You are the clingy girl in this situation, I believe. Stop texting her all day. Go a few days a week without contacting her or you are history.
 

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look, i don't miss her either but i'm not sick of her. in fact, i love her as much as i ever do. and i'm pretty much sure that she feels the same.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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My Name is Nobody said:
I think I know the feeling your girl is having.

It's the feeling when my girlfriend is too clingy and then I want to get rid if her.

You are the clingy girl in this situation, I believe. Stop texting her all day for 6 months. Go one day without contact man, you can do it!
sorry, dude. but i'm not clingy. see, i only meet her once a week an sometimes don't initiate contact.
 

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Sounds like frivelous harmless conversation to me.

Pay it no mind unless the old gut instinct makes you feel something is wrong.
 

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My Name is Nobody said:
You said you text her all day every day. My bad.
there's a difference between "we text everyday" and "i text her everyday". :cool:
 
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Fela Kuti said:
there's a difference between "we text everyday" and "i text her everyday". :cool:
But that's not what you said.

Fela Kuti said:
We meet once a week, but texting everyday, from morning to night (I wonder if this is the cause).
That's what you said.

And yes it is the cause. You already know it is the cause so why are you asking?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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look, i don't miss her either but i'm not sick of her. in fact, i love her as much as i ever do. and i'm pretty much sure that she feels the same.

You don't know her feelings 100%. Just be careful man. Thats all I must say. I wish you the best and if things don't go as planned don't turn suicidal.
 

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Sounds like frivelous harmless conversation to me.

Pay it no mind unless the old gut instinct makes you feel something is wrong.


The gut feelings tells him something wrong and thats why he's asking.
 
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I don't believe you that you don't miss her you wouldn't be making this thread! You think she's making a thread about you somewhere because she doesn't miss you? Reality check time.
 

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My Name is Nobody said:
But that's not what you said.

And yes it is the cause. You already know it is the cause so why are you asking?
yes, i admit i didn't say "we text everyday", but i said "texting everyday". but there's no diferrence, right? :) i certainly didn't say I text her everyday.

i don't know yet if it's the cause. i'm only wondering.
 
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Well good luck. Get more numbers and talk to more girls so you don't care so much about what this one is doing. She will sense you are talking to other girls and want you bad again.

It's not easy as you can see by my thread I just made, but nothing good in life is easy.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I've been with my girl for a while now and what I've found is that when we're not together, I have things to do which will take my mind off missing her so it seems like I don't.
But when you see her, give her a kiss etc you know you've missed her...

I'm sure it's the same thing with you guys.
A little hard to explain.
 

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PROTECT YOUR HEART.

WATCH HER ACTIONS.

If she doesn't miss you. Her Interest Level is low. I didn't spend any time with my girlfriend one day and she called me up like 4 times telling me how much she misses me. It hasn't been 24 hours and my girlfriend misses me!

How much does your girlfriend miss you? None, she probably doesn't care for you anymore. Maybe she does but, I'd be carefull!
 

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Mate, that text sayin she doesn't miss you was just a joke, christ lighten up.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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