"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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My GF doesn't Miss Me

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So when we were texting, she popped this statement:

"I don't miss you, I wonder why. Haha, stupid, I know."

At first it left me surprised. But then I realized that I didn't really miss her too! But that doesn't mean I don't love her anymore. So I replied jokingly:

"But you still love me do you, honey? ;)"

Her: "Haha, yes, hon."

So my question is, is it normal to no longer having the "i miss you" feeling? We've been dating for about 6 months, exclusive for a month. We meet once a week, but texting everyday, from morning to night (I wonder if this is the cause).
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Fela Kuti said:
So when we were texting, she popped this statement:

"I didn't miss you, I wonder why. Haha, stupid, I know."

At first it left me surprised. But then I realized that I didn't really miss her too! But that doesn't mean I don't love her anymore. So I replied jokingly:

"But you still love me do you, honey? ;)"

Her: "Haha, yes, hon."

So my question is, is it normal to no longer having the "i miss you" feeling? We've been dating for about 6 months, exclusive for a month. We meet once a week, but texting everyday, from morning to night (I wonder if this is the cause).

She is sick of you.

Dissapear from her life for awhile and make her miss you.
 

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I had this expirience. Weeks later she was attempting to manipulate me into breaking up with her because she couldn't do it herself. It's perfectly normal to have that "I miss you" feeling go away. Some chicks see it like they have to break up especially when they begin getting those feelings from another man and not you.
 
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I think I know the feeling your girl is having.

It's the feeling when my girlfriend is too clingy and then I want to get rid if her.

You are the clingy girl in this situation, I believe. Stop texting her all day. Go a few days a week without contacting her or you are history.
 

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look, i don't miss her either but i'm not sick of her. in fact, i love her as much as i ever do. and i'm pretty much sure that she feels the same.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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My Name is Nobody said:
I think I know the feeling your girl is having.

It's the feeling when my girlfriend is too clingy and then I want to get rid if her.

You are the clingy girl in this situation, I believe. Stop texting her all day for 6 months. Go one day without contact man, you can do it!
sorry, dude. but i'm not clingy. see, i only meet her once a week an sometimes don't initiate contact.
 

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Sounds like frivelous harmless conversation to me.

Pay it no mind unless the old gut instinct makes you feel something is wrong.
 

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My Name is Nobody said:
You said you text her all day every day. My bad.
there's a difference between "we text everyday" and "i text her everyday". :cool:
 
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Fela Kuti said:
there's a difference between "we text everyday" and "i text her everyday". :cool:
But that's not what you said.

Fela Kuti said:
We meet once a week, but texting everyday, from morning to night (I wonder if this is the cause).
That's what you said.

And yes it is the cause. You already know it is the cause so why are you asking?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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look, i don't miss her either but i'm not sick of her. in fact, i love her as much as i ever do. and i'm pretty much sure that she feels the same.

You don't know her feelings 100%. Just be careful man. Thats all I must say. I wish you the best and if things don't go as planned don't turn suicidal.
 

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Sounds like frivelous harmless conversation to me.

Pay it no mind unless the old gut instinct makes you feel something is wrong.


The gut feelings tells him something wrong and thats why he's asking.
 
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I don't believe you that you don't miss her you wouldn't be making this thread! You think she's making a thread about you somewhere because she doesn't miss you? Reality check time.
 

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My Name is Nobody said:
But that's not what you said.

And yes it is the cause. You already know it is the cause so why are you asking?
yes, i admit i didn't say "we text everyday", but i said "texting everyday". but there's no diferrence, right? :) i certainly didn't say I text her everyday.

i don't know yet if it's the cause. i'm only wondering.
 
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Well good luck. Get more numbers and talk to more girls so you don't care so much about what this one is doing. She will sense you are talking to other girls and want you bad again.

It's not easy as you can see by my thread I just made, but nothing good in life is easy.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I've been with my girl for a while now and what I've found is that when we're not together, I have things to do which will take my mind off missing her so it seems like I don't.
But when you see her, give her a kiss etc you know you've missed her...

I'm sure it's the same thing with you guys.
A little hard to explain.
 

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PROTECT YOUR HEART.

WATCH HER ACTIONS.

If she doesn't miss you. Her Interest Level is low. I didn't spend any time with my girlfriend one day and she called me up like 4 times telling me how much she misses me. It hasn't been 24 hours and my girlfriend misses me!

How much does your girlfriend miss you? None, she probably doesn't care for you anymore. Maybe she does but, I'd be carefull!
 

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Mate, that text sayin she doesn't miss you was just a joke, christ lighten up.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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