My fwb want to become more serious but I can't because of the lack of sex

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Ok so my fwb wants to become something more. And I see a lot of post about how after some time the amount of sex they have with their partner goes down. And we haven't had a ton of sex its like around 2 times a week. We see each other a lot. And that's not enough for me and I feel resentment when we don't have sex for a while. There's been plenty of times she said she'll have sex with me when we meet up. And then when it comes down to it she doesn't and it pissed me off. Since we aren't officially in a relationship. I Still have other fwb that I can have sex with when she doesn't want to. And since we don't have enough sex now I don't want a relationship with her and I know things aren't going to change if we started going out. And then I wouldn't be able to have sex with anyone else because it would be cheating.

Do you think I'm wrong for not wanting a relationship because the lack of sex ?

And is it normal to be pissed when someone lies about when they're going to give you sex ?

And what do you think I should do in this situation ?
 

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Not getting enough sex is a reason one woman may not be enough for a man. You're better off keeping her as a plate if you can and if not looking for a replacement.
 

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Ok so my fwb wants to become something more. And I see a lot of post about how after some time the amount of sex they have with their partner goes down. And we haven't had a ton of sex its like around 2 times a week. We see each other a lot. And that's not enough for me and I feel resentment when we don't have sex for a while. There's been plenty of times she said she'll have sex with me when we meet up. And then when it comes down to it she doesn't and it pissed me off. Since we aren't officially in a relationship. I Still have other fwb that I can have sex with when she doesn't want to. And since we don't have enough sex now I don't want a relationship with her and I know things aren't going to change if we started going out. And then I wouldn't be able to have sex with anyone else because it would be cheating.

Do you think I'm wrong for not wanting a relationship because the lack of sex ?

And is it normal to be pissed when someone lies about when they're going to give you sex ?

And what do you think I should do in this situation ?
Your sexually incompatible. Can you believe some women have the same complaints?
 
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Ok so my fwb wants to become something more. And I see a lot of post about how after some time the amount of sex they have with their partner goes down. And we haven't had a ton of sex its like around 2 times a week. We see each other a lot. And that's not enough for me and I feel resentment when we don't have sex for a while. There's been plenty of times she said she'll have sex with me when we meet up. And then when it comes down to it she doesn't and it pissed me off. Since we aren't officially in a relationship. I Still have other fwb that I can have sex with when she doesn't want to. And since we don't have enough sex now I don't want a relationship with her and I know things aren't going to change if we started going out. And then I wouldn't be able to have sex with anyone else because it would be cheating.

Do you think I'm wrong for not wanting a relationship because the lack of sex ?

And is it normal to be pissed when someone lies about when they're going to give you sex ?

And what do you think I should do in this situation ?
From my perspective, considering she is not your GF 2 times a week is good for FWB (gawd I miss the times when women believed FWB is possible, women around my age are not that guillible) but I'm in monk mode so you know. Perhaps rest of guys advising you phuck like 4 times a week and I should go away lol

Anyway you obviously like her. Why not GF? You are not that interested in other p.ussy from what I can read inbetween the lines. There's nothing wrong admitting that you like her a bit more than you think and you do because you spend time with her doing things like normal couple.

So why not agree to have relationship when she will ask you about it again and check if sex will get better/more? You don't need to tell her that you love her you know.
 

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From my perspective, considering she is not your GF 2 times a week is good for FWB (gawd I miss the times when women believed FWB is possible, women around my age are not that guillible) but I'm in monk mode so you know. Perhaps rest of guys advising you phuck like 4 times a week and I should go away lol

Anyway you obviously like her. Why not GF? You are not that interested in other p.ussy from what I can read inbetween the lines. There's nothing wrong admitting that you like her a bit more than you think and you do because you spend time with her doing things like normal couple.

So why not agree to have relationship when she will ask you about it again and check if sex will get better/more? You don't need to tell her that you love her you know.
I definitely like her more then the other girls I talk to because 2 times a week is enough for them. And the sex is actually better too I just think she has a lower sex drive then me. And I'm not used to that because my Ex had a way higher one then me. And I'll probably just see if I can fix the situation if not she'll probably stay one of my fan's while I still have sex with different girls.
 
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Why not just speak to her about it?

When I questioned Sara why she wasn’t horny and didn’t want sex as much in 2019 she said she lost her confidence, didn’t feel good and needed my help to get her mojo back
 
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So don't.
 

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Stop being passive aggressive about it and have a conversation with her like an adult and just let her know that you can't see her as anything more until this changes.
 
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that sex will be 'forced' and will suck and they will break up anyway
Maybe, maybe not. Depends on how badly she wants the relationship. Maybe she didnt think it was a problem. Bottom line is there are times you need to act like a man and open your mouth instead of crying about it on a message board.
 

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LOL

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cant create attraction by arguing
There is no argument to have unless he is going to beg her for more sex. He is simply stating that she isn't fulfilling his needs and giving her an opportunity to remedy the situation. If she chooses not to then that is on her.

This "little boy" behavior of going and hiding in a corner everytime something isn't going how you want in a relationship is ultra weak.
Be a man. Open your mouth. Lead.
 
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Reduce the time you see each other, make her jealous, talk about other girls and increase your value. Next time she tells you to come to her place; tell her a girl invited you for a drink.
 
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There is no argument to have unless he is going to beg her for more sex. He is simply stating that she isn't fulfilling his needs and giving her an opportunity to remedy the situation. If she chooses not to then that is on her.

This "little boy" behavior of going and hiding in a corner everytime something isn't going how you want in a relationship is ultra weak.
Be a man. Open your mouth. Lead.
Lead a low sex drive (with you) woman into duping you into a relationship by faking sexual interest...nah.

Never give anyone the keys to the kingdom.
 

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Attraction and desire are non-negotiable. Telling a woman you need more sex will lead to an initial spike, then a downturn once her goal of relationship is acquired.

Op if you want more sex you need to be more seductive. I am also questioning her overall interest level. How long have you been seeing eachother? How often per week?
 
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