"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
My first date :( - i know pathetic
- Thread starter toddC
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
BxPrince24
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As for places to take her, go somewhere fun. I try not to do the movies as much because it's like the norm nowadays. You want to take a girl somewhere she'll have fun and remember.
For instance, I went on my first date yesterday and i took the girl to Lazer Park, they have lazer tag and arcade games there. So we played some games with eachother and we played lazer tag. For a first date, there was a hell of a lot of cuddling and flirting, much more than I ever thought was gonna happen.
The main thing is to not think about it much. I was gonna go to lazer park myself and have a great time, but since I knew her and found her attractive I asked if she would like to come along.
Nothing that whole day was forced. You have to just let things run smoothly and don't over think anything or worry about anything, you'll feel it if there's a connection or not between you and the girl.
So back to your question. Bowling, Beach, Arcade *if she's into games*, theme parks, etc...
Best friends? NAY
Senior Don Juan
But if you are interesting enough you can do pretty much anything. The most recent "frist date" I went on we went to Borders so I could get a book then too a smoothie place so I could get a drink. It was more like me doing chores and taking her with.
What I guess I am getting out is really where you go doesn't matter as much as YOU matter.
Fun little tip I got from DD. Sometime during the date take her hand, then look at her and say "no hand holding" and let go.
P.S. It's not pathetic at all. What pathetic would be is not trying at all. As long as your trying you are the MAN.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Best friends? NAY
Senior Don Juan
AC/DC
Master Don Juan
Very good!
I take em to lunch.. it's cheap, show off your conversation skills, make her like you, make her laugh. Drive around, laugh at bad drivers, go to the park, make out on the playground, throw a football around... good times.
happymeal88
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Usually I will go out to lunch with a chich, or after school hang out and go over to either one of our houses to "study" and just hang out.
arutha
Senior Don Juan
Do that followed by chatting her up over lunch, maybe getting take away and sitting somewhere nice like a park or river, and you're set.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Aznkid1030
Don Juan
example: What sports do you like?
-Basketball, tennis
(then you can ask all sorts of things and keep going)
Are you a part of any teams?
which one do you like the most?
Want to go to the gym and shoot some hoops?