"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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My first date :( - i know pathetic

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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Read the DJB for Conversation tips.

As for places to take her, go somewhere fun. I try not to do the movies as much because it's like the norm nowadays. You want to take a girl somewhere she'll have fun and remember.

For instance, I went on my first date yesterday and i took the girl to Lazer Park, they have lazer tag and arcade games there. So we played some games with eachother and we played lazer tag. For a first date, there was a hell of a lot of cuddling and flirting, much more than I ever thought was gonna happen.

The main thing is to not think about it much. I was gonna go to lazer park myself and have a great time, but since I knew her and found her attractive I asked if she would like to come along.

Nothing that whole day was forced. You have to just let things run smoothly and don't over think anything or worry about anything, you'll feel it if there's a connection or not between you and the girl.

So back to your question. Bowling, Beach, Arcade *if she's into games*, theme parks, etc...
 
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The "date" is interesting. If your new to the game I would deffidently suggest somewhere with action in it to make it fun.

But if you are interesting enough you can do pretty much anything. The most recent "frist date" I went on we went to Borders so I could get a book then too a smoothie place so I could get a drink. It was more like me doing chores and taking her with.

What I guess I am getting out is really where you go doesn't matter as much as YOU matter.

Fun little tip I got from DD. Sometime during the date take her hand, then look at her and say "no hand holding" and let go.

P.S. It's not pathetic at all. What pathetic would be is not trying at all. As long as your trying you are the MAN.
 
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Todd is a pimp.

I don't know much about dating, don't really do it, ya know. lol. I mean, I could, but I never really get to, I dunno why.

But have fun.
 
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yea well i know this girl likes to have fun maybe ill take her to a theme park that sound like an interesting idea although so does the laser tag but i'm not quite sure if shes into that kinda stuff
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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IF you are into it and having a good time it will spill on to her. If she is with you she will be having a good time as long as you are. What she thinks she likes doesn't matter much as long as you are their being fun.
 
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Originally posted by Best friends? NAY
IF you are into it and having a good time it will spill on to her. If she is with you she will be having a good time as long as you are. What she thinks she likes doesn't matter much as long as you are their being fun.
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Very good!

I take em to lunch.. it's cheap, show off your conversation skills, make her like you, make her laugh. Drive around, laugh at bad drivers, go to the park, make out on the playground, throw a football around... good times.
 
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Doesn't have to be anything too spectacular. Just take her somewhere that you'd consider "fun". Be sure that it's not too expensive though.
 
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Would bowling be a good one on one date, though? I've never done it, but I see it suggested here a lot.

Usually I will go out to lunch with a chich, or after school hang out and go over to either one of our houses to "study" and just hang out.
 
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Ice skating is hell fun, and allows room for a LOT of kino. ;)

Do that followed by chatting her up over lunch, maybe getting take away and sitting somewhere nice like a park or river, and you're set.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I agree.

Ice skating is a good way to start kinoing. But of course, kino can be done anywhere. You just have to kino with a little bit of style.
 
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Some people get freaked out and find it hard to continue a convo. Not me though, I think overall, convos are pretty easy. I advise anyone whom gets freaked out about talking to just relax.:cool:
 
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conversations are 90% listening to the person ... if you dont listen then how will you continue?

example: What sports do you like?
-Basketball, tennis
(then you can ask all sorts of things and keep going)
Are you a part of any teams?
which one do you like the most?
Want to go to the gym and shoot some hoops?
 
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