"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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My ex wants to get back together

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I just got out of a 6 1/2 month realationship on saint patties day. She already wants me back. But I just met all these new girls and planed stuff with em and stuff. I did some oral stuff last night with one of em who seems the most promising at the moment. Its like I want to just **** chicks for the time being not be in a realationship you know? So what should I do?

Oh plus me and my ex had this "agreement" that on this break thingy we wouldn't do anything sexual with anyone else. :/ I kinda broke that
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Now she keeps trying to make me feel sorry for her and keep saying she will always be second best and stuff :/
 

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just tell her that you just wanna be single for a while since the break up came as such a shock. :)
 

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Its like I want to just **** chicks for the time being not be in a realationship you know? So what should I do?
You answered your own question.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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penkitten said:
just tell her that you just wanna be single for a while since the break up came as such a shock. :)

LMAO


But yeah man, do what makes you happy.....I was just in a similar situation and I went witht hat makes me happy
 
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