"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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My ex sent me a message on facebook last night... how do i reply?

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bigshot

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Basically i cut the contact after we broke up on the 1st dec, haven't heard from her since (apart from a 'happy new year' text) . . . i still think about her alot, im not over her yet . . . this is the message she sent me:

"hey bigshot
proper random i know, just messaging 2 c hw u r.. know its been a while.. hope uni and everythings going good..
realy just wanted 2 c how u r..
i understand if u dnt message bak..
take care x"

Now what should i do?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Dannyrt34

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Don't respond.. If you're not over her yet, you won't get over her unless you continue to cut all contact.

Whenever you do get over her, no matter how long it takes. Only then is when you can contact her without it affecting your feelings.
 
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Black suit

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General rule of thumb is to not contact back. So don't. Listen to the advice we're giving here.
 
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Romjuan

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i agree, if you want her back DO NOT CONTACT. wait a couple more months and let her wonder what you are up to. no repsonse is the best response. im not just saying this for you to get over her...im saying this because it is the best way to keep her interseted if you want her back.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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DonJuan11

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bigshot said:
Basically i cut the contact after we broke up on the 1st dec, haven't heard from her since (apart from a 'happy new year' text) . . . i still think about her alot, im not over her yet . . . this is the message she sent me:

"hey bigshot
proper random i know, just messaging 2 c hw u r.. know its been a while.. hope uni and everythings going good..
realy just wanted 2 c how u r..
i understand if u dnt message bak..
take care x"

Now what should i do?
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Kontroller just wrote the best post about this type of situation a week ago. The bottom line was "No response."
 
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