"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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My ex sent me a message on facebook last night... how do i reply?

bigshot

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Basically i cut the contact after we broke up on the 1st dec, haven't heard from her since (apart from a 'happy new year' text) . . . i still think about her alot, im not over her yet . . . this is the message she sent me:

"hey bigshot
proper random i know, just messaging 2 c hw u r.. know its been a while.. hope uni and everythings going good..
realy just wanted 2 c how u r..
i understand if u dnt message bak..
take care x"

Now what should i do?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Dannyrt34

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Don't respond.. If you're not over her yet, you won't get over her unless you continue to cut all contact.

Whenever you do get over her, no matter how long it takes. Only then is when you can contact her without it affecting your feelings.
 

Black suit

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General rule of thumb is to not contact back. So don't. Listen to the advice we're giving here.
 

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i agree, if you want her back DO NOT CONTACT. wait a couple more months and let her wonder what you are up to. no repsonse is the best response. im not just saying this for you to get over her...im saying this because it is the best way to keep her interseted if you want her back.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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DonJuan11

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bigshot said:
Basically i cut the contact after we broke up on the 1st dec, haven't heard from her since (apart from a 'happy new year' text) . . . i still think about her alot, im not over her yet . . . this is the message she sent me:

"hey bigshot
proper random i know, just messaging 2 c hw u r.. know its been a while.. hope uni and everythings going good..
realy just wanted 2 c how u r..
i understand if u dnt message bak..
take care x"

Now what should i do?
Kontroller just wrote the best post about this type of situation a week ago. The bottom line was "No response."
 
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