My ex is all of a sudden calling me again??

[bignick79]

What's up Don Juan-ers!

I have a little situation here that has me slightly perplexed. I broke up win my ex about a month ago. She was having issues with me "leering" at other girls. That was her perception. I had a different opinion, we all look...as long as I don't touch or hit on a girl right in front of her, what harm am I causing? I ended things because I just couldn't stand the accusations. She felt disrespected.

Anyway, we had several conversations after this and none were very positive. As a matter of fact, we ended up talking about a week ago and the conversation ended by her basically saying I'm tired of talking about all this and hanging up on me.

So, 8 days go by, I'm minding my own business, not even thinking about her and randomly she texts me...how was your vacation? I had told her specially I was going on vacation the last two weeks of September. So I hadn't even gone yet. Seemed really odd, given our last conversation was not very positive. Several times she has asked me to leave her alone and move on but now 3 days in a row I've gotten a call or text from her...the conversations have been pleasant...no talk of the things that ended our relationship, but the tension seems to have been lifted somehow. What's really going on here guys? Is she just lonely, needing someone to talk to or is she fishing to see if we can work things out?

Big Nick

 

[oneboy21]

She might be feeling lonely, seeing all her girl friend's spending time with her bf's
since you totally ignored her she might be curious whats going on with you.

 

[bignick79]

Yea, I got the feeling she was lonely a little. Prior to this, she had sent men text about 2 weeks ago. She said, "I would ask how you are, but I know you're fine. Your moms ok, your jobs ok, everything's ok. Glad your doing well.". This felt to me like she wanted to say hi and ask me how I was, but she didn't have the gumpshin to just ask. That one made me laugh!

 

[Johnnyventana]

Her new guy didn't work out.

 

[bignick79]

Quite possible...although it's only been a month or so since we broke up...I treated her great. I think she realizes what she had and maybe realizes she was being unreasonable, but can't quite admit it yet, so this is her way of keeping the door open??? IDK?

 

[Fumbduck]

Her new guy didn't work out.

That's why one of my ex's contacts me occasionally. Kick her while she's down. :kick:

 

[Masculinity]

That's why one of my ex's contacts me occasionally. Kick her while she's down. :kick:

:crackup:

 

[bigneil]

They always come back, which is important to remember for the painful first breakup. If you just let them go then you can get them back when they return. If you whine about it you can do irreversible damage. They'll still come back but your odds will be lower, plus you'll probably repeat the same mistakes.

In my current relationship we met, slept together, then she vanished for a month, then she returned and now she is obsessed with me.

 

[movistar]

They always come back, which is important to remember for the painful first breakup. If you just let them go then you can get them back when they return. If you whine about it you can do irreversible damage. They'll still come back but your odds will be lower, plus you'll probably repeat the same mistakes.

In my current relationship we met, slept together, then she vanished for a month, then she returned and now she is obsessed with me.

Most of the time they do come back, remain unfazed by them... You're just riding out the storm, they buck, to see what's out there, but eventually if you are going on with your life, improving, spinning plates you with be back in the drivers seat.

 

[Sh0t]

She wasn't being that unreasonable.

It's pretty well known women find it disrespectful when their boyfriends look at other girls right in front of them.

If you are going bother having a girlfriend(not recommended), you might as well treat her with respect.

Doing it doesn't show you are a strong man that looks at whatever he wants, it just shows you have no self-control. I would peg it as insecure before I peg it as 'alpha'. Actions like this are the definition of "passive-aggressive".