"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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My ex is all of a sudden calling me again??

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What's up Don Juan-ers!

I have a little situation here that has me slightly perplexed. I broke up win my ex about a month ago. She was having issues with me "leering" at other girls. That was her perception. I had a different opinion, we all look...as long as I don't touch or hit on a girl right in front of her, what harm am I causing? I ended things because I just couldn't stand the accusations. She felt disrespected.

Anyway, we had several conversations after this and none were very positive. As a matter of fact, we ended up talking about a week ago and the conversation ended by her basically saying I'm tired of talking about all this and hanging up on me.

So, 8 days go by, I'm minding my own business, not even thinking about her and randomly she texts me...how was your vacation? I had told her specially I was going on vacation the last two weeks of September. So I hadn't even gone yet. Seemed really odd, given our last conversation was not very positive. Several times she has asked me to leave her alone and move on but now 3 days in a row I've gotten a call or text from her...the conversations have been pleasant...no talk of the things that ended our relationship, but the tension seems to have been lifted somehow. What's really going on here guys? Is she just lonely, needing someone to talk to or is she fishing to see if we can work things out?

Big Nick
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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She might be feeling lonely, seeing all her girl friend's spending time with her bf's
since you totally ignored her she might be curious whats going on with you.
 
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Yea, I got the feeling she was lonely a little. Prior to this, she had sent men text about 2 weeks ago. She said, "I would ask how you are, but I know you're fine. Your moms ok, your jobs ok, everything's ok. Glad your doing well.". This felt to me like she wanted to say hi and ask me how I was, but she didn't have the gumpshin to just ask. That one made me laugh!
 
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Quite possible...although it's only been a month or so since we broke up...I treated her great. I think she realizes what she had and maybe realizes she was being unreasonable, but can't quite admit it yet, so this is her way of keeping the door open??? IDK?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Fumbduck said:
That's why one of my ex's contacts me occasionally. Kick her while she's down. :kick:
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They always come back, which is important to remember for the painful first breakup. If you just let them go then you can get them back when they return. If you whine about it you can do irreversible damage. They'll still come back but your odds will be lower, plus you'll probably repeat the same mistakes.

In my current relationship we met, slept together, then she vanished for a month, then she returned and now she is obsessed with me.
 
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bigneil said:
They always come back, which is important to remember for the painful first breakup. If you just let them go then you can get them back when they return. If you whine about it you can do irreversible damage. They'll still come back but your odds will be lower, plus you'll probably repeat the same mistakes.

In my current relationship we met, slept together, then she vanished for a month, then she returned and now she is obsessed with me.
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Most of the time they do come back, remain unfazed by them... You're just riding out the storm, they buck, to see what's out there, but eventually if you are going on with your life, improving, spinning plates you with be back in the drivers seat.
 
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She wasn't being that unreasonable.

It's pretty well known women find it disrespectful when their boyfriends look at other girls right in front of them.

If you are going bother having a girlfriend(not recommended), you might as well treat her with respect.

Doing it doesn't show you are a strong man that looks at whatever he wants, it just shows you have no self-control. I would peg it as insecure before I peg it as 'alpha'. Actions like this are the definition of "passive-aggressive".
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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