"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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My buddy and I # closed same girl

escaleraroyal

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My buddy and I # closed same girl. I Did 2-3 weeks ago, still working on how to get her out. My buddy # closed her today in the same shopping mall.
She doesn't say much in text, you know the one/two words reply. I only asked her out one time but she said she is more free on Wednesday then the next Wednesday came but she just told me up front she was sick.

My buddy also told me he saw her with another guy, and he thinks she is a prostitute. Should I just ask her out or wait for my friend to ask her out first, how would you proceed?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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1-2 word replies=no to low interest. Females talk a lot, especially to men they want. Novels...
 

escaleraroyal

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Asked her out. Sent this msg: "Are you free in the new few days to have a Starbucks"
Her: I'm still sick. Maybe lying but who knows.

I will try to reach her again in 3-4 days.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Asked her out. Sent this msg: "Are you free in the new few days to have a Starbucks"
Her: I'm still sick. Maybe lying but who knows.

I will try to reach her again in 3-4 days.
Drop it lol. Find diffrent plates
 

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Should I just ask her out or wait for my friend to ask her out first, how would you proceed?
I would do whatever, but be detached from the outcomes. If you can't genuinely be detached then you should just consider it to be nothing and move on. Sending messages takes a couple of seconds, the problems only start when you care about getting her. If you don't care then it's just a few seconds spent, if nothing comes from it then you won't feel a loss because you never gave a fvck to begin with.

Indifference is your friend in situations like this.
 

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My buddy and I # closed same girl. I Did 2-3 weeks ago, still working on how to get her out. My buddy # closed her today in the same shopping mall.
She doesn't say much in text, you know the one/two words reply. I only asked her out one time but she said she is more free on Wednesday then the next Wednesday came but she just told me up front she was sick.

My buddy also told me he saw her with another guy, and he thinks she is a prostitute. Should I just ask her out or wait for my friend to ask her out first, how would you proceed?
This thread is false advertising. I thought based on the title, this was a e brag about a devil's triangle /Eiffel tower /DP lololol.



Why date a potential prostitute?

1 or 2 word text = troll & & & #next her!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I'm still not sure if she is a prostitute. I saw her SnapChat and she has panties on and on her bed taking selfies.
I'm trying to get her out. Today is my 3rd attempt to ask her out. If she doesn't want to I will delete her. Waiting for her answer.
 
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