I don't know any girls. I rely solely off of cold approaches. I'll go and chat one up and exchange names and such, but I'll forget her name and I'll have a 10% chance of ever seeing her again. I know you guys are like get her #, but I can't ask for a number within a 5 minute convo. Also I'm bad with names, so fb is out.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
My biggest problem with girls that might be the door
- Thread starter JPlaya
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Jplaya, I see that you live in my state of Tennessee. If I run into you, I'll help you cold approach. Keep at it, and don't be negative about things. You have to get A LOT sorted out consciously before you can start getting regular (Day Game) success. I'm going out a lot here in West TN trying to thrash some of my sticking points. And I'm still not getting numbers much, but I keep working. Good luck!
Kupid Diggs
Don Juan
JPlaya said:
Ugh Tennessee. I stay in Tennessee too, I'm outside of Memphis. I'm a black male also. I don't get the fascination black guys have with white girls. They've always been "meh" in my eyes. Sure I'd bone some, but I never have went out of my way to date a white girl. That being said, about a year ago I was visiting my brother who was going to UT-Knoxville at the time. We were outside at his apartment complex shooting hoops, and 3 different sets of white girls came up to us. They were pretty friendly and seemed down to kick it. My brother actually ended up sleeping with one of the girls later in the month.
The best advice I can give you, go hang out and pick up hobbies that a lot of white women do. Like jogging or running. I did a 5k run the other day for charity and there were a good chunk of white women there. Be creative and be approachable. Also, you won't get any white girls dressing like Waka Flaka, unless you play football for UT-Konx.
If you really want the white girls to flock to you, make friends with some UT-Knoxville football players and start hanging with them.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I have no problem talking to them because I was born and raised in a white area. I've just been shy most of my life and I'm paying the price for it right now. Thanks, I'm going to get a haircut and go around campus looking for activities that girls flock to.
I'm not black, but from what I've observed at nightclubs in Jackson, TN, being black and getting with white girls there isn't such an improbability. Then again, Jackson also has a lot of black people there.Kupid Diggs said:
LOL at dressing like Flaka.
I'd like to check out UTK's campus sometime. I went to UTM for 5 years, and there are so many attractive women there just walking around. I'll be going to visit again shortly.
Kupid Diggs
Don Juan
They have night clubs in Jackson??? Does Jackson have any good lounges or bars?Deicide said:
I lived in Nashville for 2 years to finish college between 2008-2010. I'd say Nashville is the most diverse city in Tennessee. There are a lot of immigrants in Nashville, and there is always usually something going on. I've never been to Martin, TN. I might have to hit up UTM one day..
Yes, The Mix Factory and Taboo are two of the nightclubs I know of in Jackson(I've only went to the former). I've never been to any bars or lounges there. I usually go to Jackson to do Day Game. I'd like to go back to Nashville for a trip. I went with my family a little while ago but it's hard for me to cold approach with them around. I think I'm spending the night at UTM later on this week.Kupid Diggs said:
PrettyBoyAJ
Master Don Juan
The reason I think I'm so successful now when it comes to women is because I don't care. I'm 21 years old and I am not in my prime. A guy's prime is usually after graduating college and living on his own with his own funds. I don't complain if I know I'm not good with certain things. I just fake like I am and eventually I will learn how to do it. Keep doing things your uncomfortable with so you will be comfortable with it. Keep approaching woman and don't worry about result. Just keep doing it.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.