I don't know any girls. I rely solely off of cold approaches. I'll go and chat one up and exchange names and such, but I'll forget her name and I'll have a 10% chance of ever seeing her again. I know you guys are like get her #, but I can't ask for a number within a 5 minute convo. Also I'm bad with names, so fb is out.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
My biggest problem with girls that might be the door
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Jplaya, I see that you live in my state of Tennessee. If I run into you, I'll help you cold approach. Keep at it, and don't be negative about things. You have to get A LOT sorted out consciously before you can start getting regular (Day Game) success. I'm going out a lot here in West TN trying to thrash some of my sticking points. And I'm still not getting numbers much, but I keep working. Good luck!
Kupid Diggs
Don Juan
JPlaya said:
Ugh Tennessee. I stay in Tennessee too, I'm outside of Memphis. I'm a black male also. I don't get the fascination black guys have with white girls. They've always been "meh" in my eyes. Sure I'd bone some, but I never have went out of my way to date a white girl. That being said, about a year ago I was visiting my brother who was going to UT-Knoxville at the time. We were outside at his apartment complex shooting hoops, and 3 different sets of white girls came up to us. They were pretty friendly and seemed down to kick it. My brother actually ended up sleeping with one of the girls later in the month.
The best advice I can give you, go hang out and pick up hobbies that a lot of white women do. Like jogging or running. I did a 5k run the other day for charity and there were a good chunk of white women there. Be creative and be approachable. Also, you won't get any white girls dressing like Waka Flaka, unless you play football for UT-Konx.
If you really want the white girls to flock to you, make friends with some UT-Knoxville football players and start hanging with them.
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
I have no problem talking to them because I was born and raised in a white area. I've just been shy most of my life and I'm paying the price for it right now. Thanks, I'm going to get a haircut and go around campus looking for activities that girls flock to.
I'm not black, but from what I've observed at nightclubs in Jackson, TN, being black and getting with white girls there isn't such an improbability. Then again, Jackson also has a lot of black people there.Kupid Diggs said:
LOL at dressing like Flaka.
I'd like to check out UTK's campus sometime. I went to UTM for 5 years, and there are so many attractive women there just walking around. I'll be going to visit again shortly.
Kupid Diggs
Don Juan
They have night clubs in Jackson??? Does Jackson have any good lounges or bars?Deicide said:
I lived in Nashville for 2 years to finish college between 2008-2010. I'd say Nashville is the most diverse city in Tennessee. There are a lot of immigrants in Nashville, and there is always usually something going on. I've never been to Martin, TN. I might have to hit up UTM one day..
Yes, The Mix Factory and Taboo are two of the nightclubs I know of in Jackson(I've only went to the former). I've never been to any bars or lounges there. I usually go to Jackson to do Day Game. I'd like to go back to Nashville for a trip. I went with my family a little while ago but it's hard for me to cold approach with them around. I think I'm spending the night at UTM later on this week.Kupid Diggs said:
PrettyBoyAJ
Master Don Juan
The reason I think I'm so successful now when it comes to women is because I don't care. I'm 21 years old and I am not in my prime. A guy's prime is usually after graduating college and living on his own with his own funds. I don't complain if I know I'm not good with certain things. I just fake like I am and eventually I will learn how to do it. Keep doing things your uncomfortable with so you will be comfortable with it. Keep approaching woman and don't worry about result. Just keep doing it.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.