I don't know any girls. I rely solely off of cold approaches. I'll go and chat one up and exchange names and such, but I'll forget her name and I'll have a 10% chance of ever seeing her again. I know you guys are like get her #, but I can't ask for a number within a 5 minute convo. Also I'm bad with names, so fb is out.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
My biggest problem with girls that might be the door
- Thread starter JPlaya
- Start date
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Jplaya, I see that you live in my state of Tennessee. If I run into you, I'll help you cold approach. Keep at it, and don't be negative about things. You have to get A LOT sorted out consciously before you can start getting regular (Day Game) success. I'm going out a lot here in West TN trying to thrash some of my sticking points. And I'm still not getting numbers much, but I keep working. Good luck!
Kupid Diggs
Don Juan
JPlaya said:
Ugh Tennessee. I stay in Tennessee too, I'm outside of Memphis. I'm a black male also. I don't get the fascination black guys have with white girls. They've always been "meh" in my eyes. Sure I'd bone some, but I never have went out of my way to date a white girl. That being said, about a year ago I was visiting my brother who was going to UT-Knoxville at the time. We were outside at his apartment complex shooting hoops, and 3 different sets of white girls came up to us. They were pretty friendly and seemed down to kick it. My brother actually ended up sleeping with one of the girls later in the month.
The best advice I can give you, go hang out and pick up hobbies that a lot of white women do. Like jogging or running. I did a 5k run the other day for charity and there were a good chunk of white women there. Be creative and be approachable. Also, you won't get any white girls dressing like Waka Flaka, unless you play football for UT-Konx.
If you really want the white girls to flock to you, make friends with some UT-Knoxville football players and start hanging with them.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I have no problem talking to them because I was born and raised in a white area. I've just been shy most of my life and I'm paying the price for it right now. Thanks, I'm going to get a haircut and go around campus looking for activities that girls flock to.
I'm not black, but from what I've observed at nightclubs in Jackson, TN, being black and getting with white girls there isn't such an improbability. Then again, Jackson also has a lot of black people there.Kupid Diggs said:
LOL at dressing like Flaka.
I'd like to check out UTK's campus sometime. I went to UTM for 5 years, and there are so many attractive women there just walking around. I'll be going to visit again shortly.
Kupid Diggs
Don Juan
They have night clubs in Jackson??? Does Jackson have any good lounges or bars?Deicide said:
I lived in Nashville for 2 years to finish college between 2008-2010. I'd say Nashville is the most diverse city in Tennessee. There are a lot of immigrants in Nashville, and there is always usually something going on. I've never been to Martin, TN. I might have to hit up UTM one day..
Yes, The Mix Factory and Taboo are two of the nightclubs I know of in Jackson(I've only went to the former). I've never been to any bars or lounges there. I usually go to Jackson to do Day Game. I'd like to go back to Nashville for a trip. I went with my family a little while ago but it's hard for me to cold approach with them around. I think I'm spending the night at UTM later on this week.Kupid Diggs said:
PrettyBoyAJ
Master Don Juan
The reason I think I'm so successful now when it comes to women is because I don't care. I'm 21 years old and I am not in my prime. A guy's prime is usually after graduating college and living on his own with his own funds. I don't complain if I know I'm not good with certain things. I just fake like I am and eventually I will learn how to do it. Keep doing things your uncomfortable with so you will be comfortable with it. Keep approaching woman and don't worry about result. Just keep doing it.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.