"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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FBA808

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okay, so I have this problem. so I'm with the girl, and we'll be making out, feeling each other up, it gets hot, i'll be hard as rock, but if something, even as short as 30 seconds, stops the action, for example quick important phone call or time to get the condom or turn off the stove or WHATEVER, and I get soft, even if we go at it again pretty quickly like 30 seconds later, if I go soft I can't get hard again

this can be embarassing, any suggestions?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Get into the moment...man, you got mental troubles here....you're focusing too much on NOT her, when your attention should be to get turned on as much as you want.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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FBA808

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Docs said:
Get into the moment...man, you got mental troubles here....you're focusing too much on NOT her, when your attention should be to get turned on as much as you want.
this might be true, and if it is, i mean, what can I REALLY do?
 

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Sometimes it could be as simple as disciplining yourself to stay in the moment, and to not let yourself worry about 'performance' (which leads to self-sabotage)...

Other times, it may be more complicated... like you're a fat slob who can't stay up because after 3 minutes of a hard-on, your body needs to distribute your gravy-like blood plasma elsewhere or else you get gout and start turning blue, thus you become a fat azz blue ball with blue balls.

Other than that, have you tried the Jelq method? Look up Jelq techniques, see if that helps. Penis exercises, yeaaaah baby!
 

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You're young, so I'm going to assume it's mental. You might be stressing out. Make sure you feel comfortable with the girl, and realize that this kind of stuff happens to every guy.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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FBA808 said:
no, it's not like that at all

You'd be suprised at how horny you get after keepin your hands off the wang for a week or two.
 
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