diablo
Master Don Juan
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Msn chat log - what ya say OO..
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Evil-Rom
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I would've thought these kind of "online chatlog dating" threads should be closed.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
bubbling_dj
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Thanks a ton diablo...
Well its funny why people bother...to post .. when they actually dont want to read it...to some of the nice people like DJ Legion..thanks for your suggestions...i will try to format it better the next time...and to some of the smart ones like check mate uk...i cant think of a line where i said i love her...but i am sorry i forgot to write on the top " please read while you are not drunk"..by the way...the end result of the convo is . i got her number...and if u read it again..when you are not drunk...you will realise she was the one who said..she would like to meet up sometime...But anyways...take care ..
Well its funny why people bother...to post .. when they actually dont want to read it...to some of the nice people like DJ Legion..thanks for your suggestions...i will try to format it better the next time...and to some of the smart ones like check mate uk...i cant think of a line where i said i love her...but i am sorry i forgot to write on the top " please read while you are not drunk"..by the way...the end result of the convo is . i got her number...and if u read it again..when you are not drunk...you will realise she was the one who said..she would like to meet up sometime...But anyways...take care ..
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