noviceplaya
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I told this girl i wanted to get to know her and she said i was moving to fast. Do u think this was an excuse or was i movin to fast. Wat should i saw if i am movin to fast?
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"moving to fast"
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Two options, not enough info, it depends what you were doing. If your hands were down her panties when you had this conversation - you were moving too fast. If you were asking her out on a date she was not interested YET.
UniqueSoul
Don Juan
it's the most natural part of us humans- although we seem to want the whole deal right here, right now, we REALLY enjoy exploration n working in order to get sth. this apllies here nicely too- no one says you'll be exposed to some dull n long period for her to make up her mind (chicks hit ya SOO unexpectedly after saying they wanna wait just 3days ago- "umm, well, i just didn't have anything to do, so i ran thru my contacts n i remembered u n blablabla..."), but it'll be more fun to work on this step by step (not baby steps, by all means).
just let her get comfortable with the idea of getting into some-level relationship wit u. it won't take long. it ain't about INTEREST currently. the only one n real interest she's gonna feel is when u'll start systematically makin her "nothin without u".
not too straight, but true. relax. she'll be yours.
just let her get comfortable with the idea of getting into some-level relationship wit u. it won't take long. it ain't about INTEREST currently. the only one n real interest she's gonna feel is when u'll start systematically makin her "nothin without u".
not too straight, but true. relax. she'll be yours.
I'm not sure what your point was in all that incoherent rambling, but if the dude is saying "I want to get to know you better" and the girl tells him "You're moving too fast" then I can guarantee she's not going to be his. There is no initial interest to build on.Originally posted by UniqueSoul
it's the most natural part of us humans- although we seem to want the whole deal right here, right now, we REALLY enjoy exploration n working in order to get sth. this apllies here nicely too- no one says you'll be exposed to some dull n long period for her to make up her mind (chicks hit ya SOO unexpectedly after saying they wanna wait just 3days ago- "umm, well, i just didn't have anything to do, so i ran thru my contacts n i remembered u n blablabla..."), but it'll be more fun to work on this step by step (not baby steps, by all means).
just let her get comfortable with the idea of getting into some-level relationship wit u. it won't take long. it ain't about INTEREST currently. the only one n real interest she's gonna feel is when u'll start systematically makin her "nothin without u".
not too straight, but true. relax. she'll be yours.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
UniqueSoul
Don Juan
hmmmh... worked well for me. it was just the same situation-
I: "so we're gonna continue this tommorow, right?"
SHE: "umm, no, I really do not think so. it's kinda too fast. let's wait a lil bit. maybe some other night. bye"
ME: "bye." (in my mind, "oh ****. i did it. but she doesn't want to get back to this right after 20hours, so what now?...")
***
five days later...
one "let's give it a try" evening. one hottie indeed in my command. even i myself realised that way later than it happened.
I: "so we're gonna continue this tommorow, right?"
SHE: "umm, no, I really do not think so. it's kinda too fast. let's wait a lil bit. maybe some other night. bye"
ME: "bye." (in my mind, "oh ****. i did it. but she doesn't want to get back to this right after 20hours, so what now?...")
***
five days later...
one "let's give it a try" evening. one hottie indeed in my command. even i myself realised that way later than it happened.
Nah, but my point is (unless the original post was poorly explained) this guy NEVER REALLY MADE A MOVE. If you're putting your hands up a girl's shirt and she says "you're moving too fast" then it is a legitimate thing to say on her part, and yes, the guy might still have a chance.
But lets take a look at what he told us. If you make the comment to a girl that "I want to get to know you better" and she comes back with "you're moving too fast" then that is not legitimate, it's total bullsh*t.
If "getting to know you better" is "moving too fast", I think it's pretty clear that "moving at the right speed" for this girl means "never talking to her again".
But lets take a look at what he told us. If you make the comment to a girl that "I want to get to know you better" and she comes back with "you're moving too fast" then that is not legitimate, it's total bullsh*t.
If "getting to know you better" is "moving too fast", I think it's pretty clear that "moving at the right speed" for this girl means "never talking to her again".
UniqueSoul
Don Juan
then, mr. novice should start posting in detail in order to get a detailed answer.
but in that case where it was just as brief as he depicted it, well, it's too lame even for an excuse.
but in that case where it was just as brief as he depicted it, well, it's too lame even for an excuse.
That has absolutely nothing to do with his situation at all. The reason she said "you're moving too fast" is because you tried to make another date the day after the pervious one, which is dumb. Saying "I want to get to know you" then her saying "you're moving too fast" is a rejection line, plain and simple. Move on.Originally posted by UniqueSoul
hmmmh... worked well for me. it was just the same situation-
I: "so we're gonna continue this tommorow, right?"
SHE: "umm, no, I really do not think so. it's kinda too fast. let's wait a lil bit. maybe some other night. bye"
ME: "bye." (in my mind, "oh ****. i did it. but she doesn't want to get back to this right after 20hours, so what now?...")
***
five days later...
one "let's give it a try" evening. one hottie indeed in my command. even i myself realised that way later than it happened.
evol_andre
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she jsut wants to be frends with you cause shes think that way or she doesn't like, so wat its her lose!!!!
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.