smoothtalker72
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how do you pull it off, especially if your both actually interested in the movie
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
smoothtalker72
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that is difficult when the date starts out at the movies (i know bad idea) and you havent really had a chance to get to the point where she would be comfortable with holding your hand
LostAndConfused
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"rest" your legs on top of her legs while reclining back in your own chair.
tickle her at boring intervals during the movie, or just randomly.
tickle the palm of her hand lightly to get those tingly feelings and then you can progress to holding hands.
tickle her at boring intervals during the movie, or just randomly.
tickle the palm of her hand lightly to get those tingly feelings and then you can progress to holding hands.
Scars
Master Don Juan
Here's a tip I learned from a girl:
If at any point you are sitting with a girl and she has her hand rested in her lap and her palm is facing up that means she wants you to hold her hand. It also makes the move a lot smoother rather than prying her figiting fingers apart.
You could also whisper something in her ear.
If there's a funny part in the movie you could always tap her or touch her leg or something and say "Wow, that was funny." Yeah, that's kind of lame but atleast it will get her used to your touch.
The classic throw your arm around her. Don't do any coughing bullsh!t, just be direct about it.
Here's a ballsy move, but I've done it on a first date. Lift the arm rest up so that it makes your two seats connected. Then reach down and grab her legs and put them over your lap, she will then reposition herself to make herself comfortable. Then you can rub her thighs or what not. You also also do the same thing but have her lean her back into you then throw your arm around her.
Overall, just have fun and have a good time. Just keep it natural and light. Start slow, with maybe with touching her arm during certain scenes. Then hold her hand. Then pull away. Maybe hold her hand some more then "go to the bathroom". Then when you return don't hold her hand at all, keep them in your lap, then randomly just throw your arm over her. Throw her for a loop. It's fun. Trust me.
If at any point you are sitting with a girl and she has her hand rested in her lap and her palm is facing up that means she wants you to hold her hand. It also makes the move a lot smoother rather than prying her figiting fingers apart.
You could also whisper something in her ear.
If there's a funny part in the movie you could always tap her or touch her leg or something and say "Wow, that was funny." Yeah, that's kind of lame but atleast it will get her used to your touch.
The classic throw your arm around her. Don't do any coughing bullsh!t, just be direct about it.
Here's a ballsy move, but I've done it on a first date. Lift the arm rest up so that it makes your two seats connected. Then reach down and grab her legs and put them over your lap, she will then reposition herself to make herself comfortable. Then you can rub her thighs or what not. You also also do the same thing but have her lean her back into you then throw your arm around her.
Overall, just have fun and have a good time. Just keep it natural and light. Start slow, with maybe with touching her arm during certain scenes. Then hold her hand. Then pull away. Maybe hold her hand some more then "go to the bathroom". Then when you return don't hold her hand at all, keep them in your lap, then randomly just throw your arm over her. Throw her for a loop. It's fun. Trust me.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
smoothtalker72
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ill have to try that. all sounds good at a decent theater but now i need to figure something out for a theater where the seats dont move and neither do the arm rests so theres like a barrier in between the two.
Five To One
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Accually I enjoy leaning in and whispering into her ear, "watch this"
And then I do one of those yawns and put my arm around her.
Its funny becasuse it is so rediculous looking. I usually follow it up with "I can see your impressed by how smooth I am" in a serious tone as their laughing.
She will think its funny and you will have your arm around her
And then I do one of those yawns and put my arm around her.
Its funny becasuse it is so rediculous looking. I usually follow it up with "I can see your impressed by how smooth I am" in a serious tone as their laughing.
She will think its funny and you will have your arm around her
When I'm with my girl I say "oh look! a unicorn!" and like point at the ceiling then put my arm around her. I do it noticeably and make it seem really cheesy. She always gets a laugh at that. Another thing is when you want to talk to her about the movie, rest your hand on her leg to get her attention and keep it there after you're done talking. You can also "fight" over the arm rest.
redspicyflag
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lol
some funny stuff here
some funny stuff here
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
smoothtalker72
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id use that but the theaters around here suck and putting my arm around her wouldnt be comfortable at all. most i could do is probably hold her hand unless i can convince her to sit in one of the extended seats that are closer to the screen. if we do that its gonna be more about her than the movie tho because its really hard to enjoy it from there
darkme_legendary
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Why do you make it harder? Start the "date" before the movie and do some stuff. Next, if you want you can tell her to come and see a movie.(If you still want to do this.)
smoothtalker72
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well i was going to the movies and invited her. i guess we coulda went to the mall tho since it was a relatively early movie
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.