smoothtalker72
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how do you pull it off, especially if your both actually interested in the movie
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
smoothtalker72
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that is difficult when the date starts out at the movies (i know bad idea) and you havent really had a chance to get to the point where she would be comfortable with holding your hand
LostAndConfused
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"rest" your legs on top of her legs while reclining back in your own chair.
tickle her at boring intervals during the movie, or just randomly.
tickle the palm of her hand lightly to get those tingly feelings and then you can progress to holding hands.
tickle her at boring intervals during the movie, or just randomly.
tickle the palm of her hand lightly to get those tingly feelings and then you can progress to holding hands.
Scars
Master Don Juan
Here's a tip I learned from a girl:
If at any point you are sitting with a girl and she has her hand rested in her lap and her palm is facing up that means she wants you to hold her hand. It also makes the move a lot smoother rather than prying her figiting fingers apart.
You could also whisper something in her ear.
If there's a funny part in the movie you could always tap her or touch her leg or something and say "Wow, that was funny." Yeah, that's kind of lame but atleast it will get her used to your touch.
The classic throw your arm around her. Don't do any coughing bullsh!t, just be direct about it.
Here's a ballsy move, but I've done it on a first date. Lift the arm rest up so that it makes your two seats connected. Then reach down and grab her legs and put them over your lap, she will then reposition herself to make herself comfortable. Then you can rub her thighs or what not. You also also do the same thing but have her lean her back into you then throw your arm around her.
Overall, just have fun and have a good time. Just keep it natural and light. Start slow, with maybe with touching her arm during certain scenes. Then hold her hand. Then pull away. Maybe hold her hand some more then "go to the bathroom". Then when you return don't hold her hand at all, keep them in your lap, then randomly just throw your arm over her. Throw her for a loop. It's fun. Trust me.
If at any point you are sitting with a girl and she has her hand rested in her lap and her palm is facing up that means she wants you to hold her hand. It also makes the move a lot smoother rather than prying her figiting fingers apart.
You could also whisper something in her ear.
If there's a funny part in the movie you could always tap her or touch her leg or something and say "Wow, that was funny." Yeah, that's kind of lame but atleast it will get her used to your touch.
The classic throw your arm around her. Don't do any coughing bullsh!t, just be direct about it.
Here's a ballsy move, but I've done it on a first date. Lift the arm rest up so that it makes your two seats connected. Then reach down and grab her legs and put them over your lap, she will then reposition herself to make herself comfortable. Then you can rub her thighs or what not. You also also do the same thing but have her lean her back into you then throw your arm around her.
Overall, just have fun and have a good time. Just keep it natural and light. Start slow, with maybe with touching her arm during certain scenes. Then hold her hand. Then pull away. Maybe hold her hand some more then "go to the bathroom". Then when you return don't hold her hand at all, keep them in your lap, then randomly just throw your arm over her. Throw her for a loop. It's fun. Trust me.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
smoothtalker72
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ill have to try that. all sounds good at a decent theater but now i need to figure something out for a theater where the seats dont move and neither do the arm rests so theres like a barrier in between the two.
Five To One
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Accually I enjoy leaning in and whispering into her ear, "watch this"
And then I do one of those yawns and put my arm around her.
Its funny becasuse it is so rediculous looking. I usually follow it up with "I can see your impressed by how smooth I am" in a serious tone as their laughing.
She will think its funny and you will have your arm around her
And then I do one of those yawns and put my arm around her.
Its funny becasuse it is so rediculous looking. I usually follow it up with "I can see your impressed by how smooth I am" in a serious tone as their laughing.
She will think its funny and you will have your arm around her
When I'm with my girl I say "oh look! a unicorn!" and like point at the ceiling then put my arm around her. I do it noticeably and make it seem really cheesy. She always gets a laugh at that. Another thing is when you want to talk to her about the movie, rest your hand on her leg to get her attention and keep it there after you're done talking. You can also "fight" over the arm rest.
redspicyflag
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lol
some funny stuff here
some funny stuff here
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
smoothtalker72
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id use that but the theaters around here suck and putting my arm around her wouldnt be comfortable at all. most i could do is probably hold her hand unless i can convince her to sit in one of the extended seats that are closer to the screen. if we do that its gonna be more about her than the movie tho because its really hard to enjoy it from there
darkme_legendary
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Why do you make it harder? Start the "date" before the movie and do some stuff. Next, if you want you can tell her to come and see a movie.(If you still want to do this.)
smoothtalker72
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well i was going to the movies and invited her. i guess we coulda went to the mall tho since it was a relatively early movie
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.