smoothtalker72
Don Juan
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how do you pull it off, especially if your both actually interested in the movie
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Thats Gold. Use this for sure bro.Five To One said:Accually I enjoy leaning in and whispering into her ear, "watch this"
And then I do one of those yawns and put my arm around her.
Its funny becasuse it is so rediculous looking. I usually follow it up with "I can see your impressed by how smooth I am" in a serious tone as their laughing.
She will think its funny and you will have your arm around her
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Why do you make it harder? Start the "date" before the movie and do some stuff. Next, if you want you can tell her to come and see a movie.(If you still want to do this.)that is difficult when the date starts out at the movies (i know bad idea) and you havent really had a chance to get to the point where she would be comfortable with holding your hand
If you can't put your arm around her shoulder, (i think it is uncomfortable too), you can just put it around her waist? Thats what I dosmoothtalker72 said:well i was going to the movies and invited her. i guess we coulda went to the mall tho since it was a relatively early movie
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Solid.Five To One said:Accually I enjoy leaning in and whispering into her ear, "watch this"
And then I do one of those yawns and put my arm around her.
Its funny becasuse it is so rediculous looking. I usually follow it up with "I can see your impressed by how smooth I am" in a serious tone as their laughing.
She will think its funny and you will have your arm around her