Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
R U serious>vigilance said:Most obvious was at a gig I was doing (I play bass). Some dude comes up to me on break and says "my friend wants to meet you". So I go meet his friend, who turns out to be a fairly attractive blond chick I say "Hey I'm vigilance" and she says "I'm blahblahblah, wanna ****?". I said yes, then we did.
Remember, all condoms have a FUKK BEFORE DATE.kdnash82 said:Downside to that story was the condoms my friend gave me were stale and dry. One broke, the other rolled up to the point where it wanted to break and was just uncomfortable, which left me drunk, upset and very unsatisfied
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
did yew go to an Arizona uni?ER!C L!VE said:Spring Break Rocky Point '93.
Wait.. isn't this the most olympic night one's ever had thread? :cheer:
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Thankskdnash82 said:Er!c L!ve was fortunate enough to be old enough to have been of age around a time where girls were more "open" with their sexuality. After AIDS/HIV came along, things began to wrap up. Now us younger bucks have things a little more difficult.
We have to do a little more song and dance in order to get in those pants, and even then two in one night in the same spot would be un-heard of.
Way to go!!
Yep, I went to UofAZ, ASU and two different community colleges. I went on the 11 year plan. I graduated from ASU.DrMetallica said:did yew go to an Arizona uni?
ER!C L!VE said:I went on the 11 year plan.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.