"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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More ********: please decipher.

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I'm normally pretty good at deciphering ******** on the fly, but here's one that was tough, what does she mean when she says:

"I like being with you."
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I find that's alot more then just "I like you". She's starting to have deeper feelings and wants to be your girlfriend. If she's already your girlfriend then she might be thinking about moving in. You could almost take it as "I like being with you........ all the time" At least that's been my experience.
 

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Hmm.... I thought it translated to "I don't like you".
 

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Well what did she say after that. Was it "I like being with you, BUT I'm married with three kids and I can't continue this relationship". Or was it after a great date and she just looked into your eyes and said "I like being with you".......no buts.......

Also, what would YOU mean if you said to a girl "I like being with you". Men and women are different but not that different.
 

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The context was, after the most perfect series of dates, the sex hurt her and after the second time she stayed over, and it hurt, and I had to stop, we were having doubts about the relationship. So it was like "I like being with you, but the sex part worries (her)".
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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bigneil said:
The context was, after the most perfect series of dates, the sex hurt her and after the second time she stayed over, and it hurt, and I had to stop, we were having doubts about the relationship. So it was like "I like being with you, but the sex part worries (her)".
To me that sounds like "I like being with you but we're not going to have sex anymore"
 

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Hmm, how about

"I'm happy with you"

This girl I ignore at times said that to me (I see her as less as possible. But everytime I do see her I make her have a good time) at one point when she wanted a break from her boyfriend. This is from a girl who has a total loser of a boyfriend (desperate, clingy, obsessive).
 

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Wow.... I never got dumped during sex before... I sure hope she lets me practice... women normally try and make it work after you sleep with them.
 

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'being with you' = I like you, but more as a friend. Or , "I like being with you when I have the time".
 

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So I'm wondering what to do next. Our last contact was a goodbye kiss 5 days ago. Is a girl obligated to thank me for dinner? Am I obligated to call and thank her (for sex)? Are we even? Should I wait it out until she contacts me (assuming her interest level is slipping it may be my only hope)? I did have another person (HB8 age 23) I saw Sat. but have to wonder if she had another date.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Lol you must have sucked pretty bad at the sex part.

Try a lubricant next time.
 

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"more foreplay"
 

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Wow - talk about being bad in bed. I had to think back to the last girl who liked me less after sex, and I honestly couldn't think of one.

This girl is extremely uptight - I realized the next day giving her a massage - her back was one big knot.

I did do foreplay for 15 minutes, but she doesn't like oral sex so all the lessons I got from the bisexual women did me no good. No spanking. No oral. No anal. No bondage. Man.

But then she kept saying "You can deeper, you can go harder - you can go faster" until "OW - that does it - stop.". It was like torture.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I feel like a pair of shoes sitting on the shelf at the store. She tried me on and bought me and wore me for one night but I didn't fit quite right so she returned me the next day.
 
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