"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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More ********: please decipher.

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I'm normally pretty good at deciphering ******** on the fly, but here's one that was tough, what does she mean when she says:

"I like being with you."
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I find that's alot more then just "I like you". She's starting to have deeper feelings and wants to be your girlfriend. If she's already your girlfriend then she might be thinking about moving in. You could almost take it as "I like being with you........ all the time" At least that's been my experience.
 

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Hmm.... I thought it translated to "I don't like you".
 

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Well what did she say after that. Was it "I like being with you, BUT I'm married with three kids and I can't continue this relationship". Or was it after a great date and she just looked into your eyes and said "I like being with you".......no buts.......

Also, what would YOU mean if you said to a girl "I like being with you". Men and women are different but not that different.
 

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The context was, after the most perfect series of dates, the sex hurt her and after the second time she stayed over, and it hurt, and I had to stop, we were having doubts about the relationship. So it was like "I like being with you, but the sex part worries (her)".
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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bigneil said:
The context was, after the most perfect series of dates, the sex hurt her and after the second time she stayed over, and it hurt, and I had to stop, we were having doubts about the relationship. So it was like "I like being with you, but the sex part worries (her)".
To me that sounds like "I like being with you but we're not going to have sex anymore"
 

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Hmm, how about

"I'm happy with you"

This girl I ignore at times said that to me (I see her as less as possible. But everytime I do see her I make her have a good time) at one point when she wanted a break from her boyfriend. This is from a girl who has a total loser of a boyfriend (desperate, clingy, obsessive).
 

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Wow.... I never got dumped during sex before... I sure hope she lets me practice... women normally try and make it work after you sleep with them.
 

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'being with you' = I like you, but more as a friend. Or , "I like being with you when I have the time".
 

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So I'm wondering what to do next. Our last contact was a goodbye kiss 5 days ago. Is a girl obligated to thank me for dinner? Am I obligated to call and thank her (for sex)? Are we even? Should I wait it out until she contacts me (assuming her interest level is slipping it may be my only hope)? I did have another person (HB8 age 23) I saw Sat. but have to wonder if she had another date.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Lol you must have sucked pretty bad at the sex part.

Try a lubricant next time.
 

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"more foreplay"
 

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Wow - talk about being bad in bed. I had to think back to the last girl who liked me less after sex, and I honestly couldn't think of one.

This girl is extremely uptight - I realized the next day giving her a massage - her back was one big knot.

I did do foreplay for 15 minutes, but she doesn't like oral sex so all the lessons I got from the bisexual women did me no good. No spanking. No oral. No anal. No bondage. Man.

But then she kept saying "You can deeper, you can go harder - you can go faster" until "OW - that does it - stop.". It was like torture.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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I feel like a pair of shoes sitting on the shelf at the store. She tried me on and bought me and wore me for one night but I didn't fit quite right so she returned me the next day.
 
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