"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Mixed signals...what do ya think??

DonJuanQuixote

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Hey buds..

Theres this girl in my class who I've been having study sessions with (2 now) and she's cute, I wanna do her.

question is, that she ruffles my hair and playfully punches me in the arm, and that from my experience is NOT a sign of sexual attraction, but a sister like attitude. All the same, I found an opportune moment and held her hand, to which she didnt seem averse... I'm gonna apply the kiss test next time, but meanwhile, what do you think is happening here??
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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The TallOne

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Uh, those are good flirting signals also.

Ask for the number.

Call her a few days later.

Tell her that you'd like to hang out with her, and pick a place to do so.

Have fun, nothin serious, light topics, treat her like a sister in a way that you tease her alot.

At the end of the 'date', go in for the kill, so to speak.

Good luck.
 

squirrels

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Stop obsessing over the "signals." Assume she likes you and act appropriately. If she doesn't, she'll let you know.
 

MrCode

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Ditto on squirrels reply.

Most guys obsess too much about "signals" and "signs." Just make a move.
 

Recluce

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not signs of sexual attraction!?!? what do you want her to do? grab your jock? her initiating physical contact is more than enough reason to go for it
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Sart

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dont know

I had a couple of girls who would flick their haair, play with their ears, stretch back and reveal their stomachs, grab me by the arm, punch and tickle me and I wondered te same thing.

I think a little psychology could be useful here. Usually, the feeling you get from a person is a reflection of what they are giving off. ACTING on it is the hard bit.
 

dockta

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Re: dont know

Originally posted by Sart
I had a couple of girls who would flick their haair, play with their ears, stretch back and reveal their stomachs, grab me by the arm, punch and tickle me and I wondered te same thing.

I think a little psychology could be useful here. Usually, the feeling you get from a person is a reflection of what they are giving off. ACTING on it is the hard bit.
Nice post Sart. Makes sense
 
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