"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Mixed signals...what do ya think??

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DonJuanQuixote

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Hey buds..

Theres this girl in my class who I've been having study sessions with (2 now) and she's cute, I wanna do her.

question is, that she ruffles my hair and playfully punches me in the arm, and that from my experience is NOT a sign of sexual attraction, but a sister like attitude. All the same, I found an opportune moment and held her hand, to which she didnt seem averse... I'm gonna apply the kiss test next time, but meanwhile, what do you think is happening here??
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Uh, those are good flirting signals also.

Ask for the number.

Call her a few days later.

Tell her that you'd like to hang out with her, and pick a place to do so.

Have fun, nothin serious, light topics, treat her like a sister in a way that you tease her alot.

At the end of the 'date', go in for the kill, so to speak.

Good luck.
 
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Stop obsessing over the "signals." Assume she likes you and act appropriately. If she doesn't, she'll let you know.
 
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Ditto on squirrels reply.

Most guys obsess too much about "signals" and "signs." Just make a move.
 
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not signs of sexual attraction!?!? what do you want her to do? grab your jock? her initiating physical contact is more than enough reason to go for it
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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dont know

I had a couple of girls who would flick their haair, play with their ears, stretch back and reveal their stomachs, grab me by the arm, punch and tickle me and I wondered te same thing.

I think a little psychology could be useful here. Usually, the feeling you get from a person is a reflection of what they are giving off. ACTING on it is the hard bit.
 
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Re: dont know

Originally posted by Sart
I had a couple of girls who would flick their haair, play with their ears, stretch back and reveal their stomachs, grab me by the arm, punch and tickle me and I wondered te same thing.

I think a little psychology could be useful here. Usually, the feeling you get from a person is a reflection of what they are giving off. ACTING on it is the hard bit.
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Nice post Sart. Makes sense
 
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