She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Crazy Asian said:yeah, i hope so.
i'm also swimming for club during the summer and off season, so i hope to get my time down to a 1:03 high before season starts.
one of my friends went a 1:03 last year w/o working very hard. this year, he worked his @ss off and came to every practice but he got slower by 1.5 seconds. it was really weird.
no i mean it was the end of season at the state meet.Touchout said:Na it's not really that weird actually, he was probably physically exhausted, he probably didn't taper and just couldn't go 100%. Hell, early in the season when we were doing 8000 yard practices my time in one meet was 1:08 haha.
I'm looking foward to seeing you progress tho, I hope you stick to your plan.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Is this dinner? I think you could do better then cereal, chocolate milk and eggs. It makes me sick to my stomach thinking of that mixture.Crazy Asian said:Post workout :
3 scoops of whey (30g of protein)
7 whole grain cereal w/chocolate milk (carbs + 17g protein)
3 eggs scrambled (18g protein)
I-tallionStallion said:Is this dinner? I think you could do better then cereal, chocolate milk and eggs. It makes me sick to my stomach thinking of that mixture.
try a 1/2lb of beef (cooked anyway you want it) with potatos or beans. Lay off the milk - get something like "carbo gain" for after workout carbs - mix with whey in shake for postworkout
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
If your going for a clean bulk, then lay off the milk...pretty sugary and could make you fat but eh might not depending on your metabolism. I think you could do better for your meal tho. You probably won't find many big guys, eating chocolate milk and cereal to get big. Eggs are good tho.Crazy Asian said:no that wasn't dinner.
i really don't see what's wrong with my mixture.
everything was healthy.
my coach said the best thing to eat/drink after a workout is chocolate milk.
and the cereal was a good kind.
No fruits, and no bread I'd say. Starch and sugar is not good at night. veggies and steak is very good tho. Stick with something like that. I'd have steak or beef/potatoes 45 minutes after my post workout shake and then for dinner some other protein dish.Crazy Asian said:i accidentally fell asleep and just woke up.
i'm about to have dinner:
STEAK
wheat bread <--- would it be smart to cut this out since it's 8:00?
fruits and veggies.
and 3 fish oil's ( i already had some this morning.)
thanks for the advice.I-tallionStallion said:If your going for a clean bulk, then lay off the milk...pretty sugary and could make you fat but eh might not depending on your metabolism. I think you could do better for your meal tho. You probably won't find many big guys, eating chocolate milk and cereal to get big. Eggs are good tho.
No fruits, and no bread I'd say. Starch and sugar is not good at night. veggies and steak is very good tho. Stick with something like that. I'd have steak or beef/potatoes 45 minutes after my post workout shake and then for dinner some other protein dish.
Diet needs a lot of work.Crazy Asian said:Day 2:
Cereal w/milk <--- i'll start eating toast with peanut butter and eggs, but i didn't have time today.
crappy school lunch.
didn't work out today.
came home at 5:30 - didn't swim either.
dinner - pasta with scallops and tomato sauce.
veggies.
shrimp.
a packet of tuna w/ garlic, scallions, ginger and olive oil.
will probably be eating peanuts while i do hw and cram for tests tonight.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.