You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Crazy Asian said:yeah, i hope so.
i'm also swimming for club during the summer and off season, so i hope to get my time down to a 1:03 high before season starts.
one of my friends went a 1:03 last year w/o working very hard. this year, he worked his @ss off and came to every practice but he got slower by 1.5 seconds. it was really weird.
no i mean it was the end of season at the state meet.Touchout said:Na it's not really that weird actually, he was probably physically exhausted, he probably didn't taper and just couldn't go 100%. Hell, early in the season when we were doing 8000 yard practices my time in one meet was 1:08 haha.
I'm looking foward to seeing you progress tho, I hope you stick to your plan.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Is this dinner? I think you could do better then cereal, chocolate milk and eggs. It makes me sick to my stomach thinking of that mixture.Crazy Asian said:Post workout :
3 scoops of whey (30g of protein)
7 whole grain cereal w/chocolate milk (carbs + 17g protein)
3 eggs scrambled (18g protein)
I-tallionStallion said:Is this dinner? I think you could do better then cereal, chocolate milk and eggs. It makes me sick to my stomach thinking of that mixture.
try a 1/2lb of beef (cooked anyway you want it) with potatos or beans. Lay off the milk - get something like "carbo gain" for after workout carbs - mix with whey in shake for postworkout
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
If your going for a clean bulk, then lay off the milk...pretty sugary and could make you fat but eh might not depending on your metabolism. I think you could do better for your meal tho. You probably won't find many big guys, eating chocolate milk and cereal to get big. Eggs are good tho.Crazy Asian said:no that wasn't dinner.
i really don't see what's wrong with my mixture.
everything was healthy.
my coach said the best thing to eat/drink after a workout is chocolate milk.
and the cereal was a good kind.
No fruits, and no bread I'd say. Starch and sugar is not good at night. veggies and steak is very good tho. Stick with something like that. I'd have steak or beef/potatoes 45 minutes after my post workout shake and then for dinner some other protein dish.Crazy Asian said:i accidentally fell asleep and just woke up.
i'm about to have dinner:
STEAK
wheat bread <--- would it be smart to cut this out since it's 8:00?
fruits and veggies.
and 3 fish oil's ( i already had some this morning.)
thanks for the advice.I-tallionStallion said:If your going for a clean bulk, then lay off the milk...pretty sugary and could make you fat but eh might not depending on your metabolism. I think you could do better for your meal tho. You probably won't find many big guys, eating chocolate milk and cereal to get big. Eggs are good tho.
No fruits, and no bread I'd say. Starch and sugar is not good at night. veggies and steak is very good tho. Stick with something like that. I'd have steak or beef/potatoes 45 minutes after my post workout shake and then for dinner some other protein dish.
Diet needs a lot of work.Crazy Asian said:Day 2:
Cereal w/milk <--- i'll start eating toast with peanut butter and eggs, but i didn't have time today.
crappy school lunch.
didn't work out today.
came home at 5:30 - didn't swim either.
dinner - pasta with scallops and tomato sauce.
veggies.
shrimp.
a packet of tuna w/ garlic, scallions, ginger and olive oil.
will probably be eating peanuts while i do hw and cram for tests tonight.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.