"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Might try acting aloof for a change....

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this girl allegedly wanted me....we hit it off the first time we chilled....theres this other guy texting her and ****....and i was home this weekend and she went to his frat both nights, im assuming getting with him.

so pretty much im gonna act with a "**** it, if you want me, you need to earn me" attitude.

good idea?

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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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bump....idk what to do...im usually mad nice and when me and a girl like eachother i only like have eyes for her...

im thinkin the next time we r at a party together im gonna talk to every girl there and see what she does....
 
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theguy351 said:
this girl allegedly wanted me....we hit it off the first time we chilled....theres this other guy texting her and ****....and i was home this weekend and she went to his frat both nights, im assuming getting with him.

so pretty much im gonna act with a "**** it, if you want me, you need to earn me" attitude.

good idea?
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Not a good idea if you want to sleep with her. The other guy probably let her know he wanted to sleep with her and got some. If you don't care about getting some, then go for acting aloof.
 
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If you haven't built any attraction, there's nothing she wants to "earn"
 
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From the sounds of it, you are thinking about sex without having shown her you were remotely interested in her vagina. You chilled one afternoon. I chill with my sister at starbucks...See what I did there? Obviously I don't want my sister, else this would be a fvcked up world...

You want to fvck her, meet with her again and make some moves. You want her to be your friend, you are already done buddy...
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Vendetta081789 said:
From the sounds of it, you are thinking about sex without having shown her you were remotely interested in her vagina. You chilled one afternoon. I chill with my sister at starbucks...See what I did there? Obviously I don't want my sister, else this would be a fvcked up world...

You want to fvck her, meet with her again and make some moves. You want her to be your friend, you are already done buddy...
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no, actually we chilled one night, got bombed and then we were all over eachother....im pretty positive i would have at least gotten head, btu when we went back to her room, 2 other dudes came cause they thought we were just gonna chill....

so your saying i should not act aloof and just prove that im the best guy for her? then **** her brains out?
 
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If she was practically all over you, she will do it again. Get some alone time with her and slam it.
 
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theguy351 said:
this girl allegedly wanted me....we hit it off the first time we chilled....theres this other guy texting her and ****....and i was home this weekend and she went to his frat both nights, im assuming getting with him.

so pretty much im gonna act with a "**** it, if you want me, you need to earn me" attitude.

good idea?

advice, tips, personal experience?
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If you want to fauck her, then just make a move on her. You only play hard to get if you want a relationship with a woman. Get the latest DVD and invite her to your room for a screening :cool:
 
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If you want to fauck her, then just make a move on her. You only play hard to get if you want a relationship with a woman. Get the latest DVD and invite her to your room for a screening :cool:
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im thinking i might want a relationship...should i **** her first or at least move in, and then play hard to get after? idk, i havent had a relationship ever....
 
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Not necessairly, better move is to be seen with other hot chicks and keep your communication with her to a minimum.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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BipedGod said:
Not necessairly, better move is to be seen with other hot chicks and keep your communication with her to a minimum.
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hmm....thats kind of what i meant...
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Just go for it with her. Ask her to hang out.
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ya...

also she im's me alot on aim.....and we chat for a bit.

i dont really im her until she ims me, should I start the convo or just let her start them?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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