"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Might try acting aloof for a change....

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this girl allegedly wanted me....we hit it off the first time we chilled....theres this other guy texting her and ****....and i was home this weekend and she went to his frat both nights, im assuming getting with him.

so pretty much im gonna act with a "**** it, if you want me, you need to earn me" attitude.

good idea?

advice, tips, personal experience?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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bump....idk what to do...im usually mad nice and when me and a girl like eachother i only like have eyes for her...

im thinkin the next time we r at a party together im gonna talk to every girl there and see what she does....
 

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theguy351 said:
this girl allegedly wanted me....we hit it off the first time we chilled....theres this other guy texting her and ****....and i was home this weekend and she went to his frat both nights, im assuming getting with him.

so pretty much im gonna act with a "**** it, if you want me, you need to earn me" attitude.

good idea?

Not a good idea if you want to sleep with her. The other guy probably let her know he wanted to sleep with her and got some. If you don't care about getting some, then go for acting aloof.
 

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If you haven't built any attraction, there's nothing she wants to "earn"
 

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From the sounds of it, you are thinking about sex without having shown her you were remotely interested in her vagina. You chilled one afternoon. I chill with my sister at starbucks...See what I did there? Obviously I don't want my sister, else this would be a fvcked up world...

You want to fvck her, meet with her again and make some moves. You want her to be your friend, you are already done buddy...
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Vendetta081789 said:
From the sounds of it, you are thinking about sex without having shown her you were remotely interested in her vagina. You chilled one afternoon. I chill with my sister at starbucks...See what I did there? Obviously I don't want my sister, else this would be a fvcked up world...

You want to fvck her, meet with her again and make some moves. You want her to be your friend, you are already done buddy...
no, actually we chilled one night, got bombed and then we were all over eachother....im pretty positive i would have at least gotten head, btu when we went back to her room, 2 other dudes came cause they thought we were just gonna chill....

so your saying i should not act aloof and just prove that im the best guy for her? then **** her brains out?
 

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If she was practically all over you, she will do it again. Get some alone time with her and slam it.
 

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theguy351 said:
this girl allegedly wanted me....we hit it off the first time we chilled....theres this other guy texting her and ****....and i was home this weekend and she went to his frat both nights, im assuming getting with him.

so pretty much im gonna act with a "**** it, if you want me, you need to earn me" attitude.

good idea?

advice, tips, personal experience?

If you want to fauck her, then just make a move on her. You only play hard to get if you want a relationship with a woman. Get the latest DVD and invite her to your room for a screening :cool:
 

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DonJaunStupidity said:
If you want to fauck her, then just make a move on her. You only play hard to get if you want a relationship with a woman. Get the latest DVD and invite her to your room for a screening :cool:
im thinking i might want a relationship...should i **** her first or at least move in, and then play hard to get after? idk, i havent had a relationship ever....
 

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Not necessairly, better move is to be seen with other hot chicks and keep your communication with her to a minimum.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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BipedGod said:
Not necessairly, better move is to be seen with other hot chicks and keep your communication with her to a minimum.
hmm....thats kind of what i meant...
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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zinc64 said:
Just go for it with her. Ask her to hang out.
ya...

also she im's me alot on aim.....and we chat for a bit.

i dont really im her until she ims me, should I start the convo or just let her start them?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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