Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
do you really think i need the pity of an average white boy?I already told you on another thread... Your mentality is the source of your failure. You are just here venting your frustration. So you failed a little bit? Suck it up, move along. You want to win? Keep on working at it and soon it becomes easier. However, this is all a pathetic excuse because you do not want to put in the hard work to get there. You are simply here trying to get a pity party because you failed and are trying to feel better about it. But I give no pity...
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You fail to realize I more of a troll than anything else. I know these kind of whinning threads pisses people off. I love how they all get upset.It is kind of fun watching this guy rage so much and blaming everything but himself on his problems. I mean, here this guy was talking about how Latino's were the real Don Juans, but obviously this guy is not Don Juan material. He lacks the mindset, the focus, the dedication. I am afraid there is no helping him...