Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I agree that this is an opportunity for sex. It is long overdue with her.
No. Do not send her anything. Ask her out. Plan the logistics. Take her somewhere close to your house or her house (because sex can happen if the night goes well). Pick her up if you can. On the date, escalate. Attempt to kiss her within 45 minutes. 30 is even better.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
We don't live in the same country and I won't be in that country for another 3 months, so have to get the rapport going if want to escalate (and I do)
Nah. Disappear. Reappear 2-3 weeks before you go to the country. You gain nothing by chatting with this girl for 3 months when you haven’t even banged yet.
Just why are you even bothering considering this?
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Why do we do the things we do? You could ask every guy that’s chasing tail here the very same question
If you were local to her, I would recommend acting on it. If she were local and she's unhappy in her relationship, she will be inclined to have sex with you if you present yourself as an compelling option for her.
You will not be in that country for another 3 months what is the point of building rapport?
I asked because this seems like a waste of time and energy. I go by the line by Dr. Robert Glover: “Walk through open doors”.
It does seem like a better option to reach out then, 3 months is nothing
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.