You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I agree that this is an opportunity for sex. It is long overdue with her.
No. Do not send her anything. Ask her out. Plan the logistics. Take her somewhere close to your house or her house (because sex can happen if the night goes well). Pick her up if you can. On the date, escalate. Attempt to kiss her within 45 minutes. 30 is even better.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
We don't live in the same country and I won't be in that country for another 3 months, so have to get the rapport going if want to escalate (and I do)
Nah. Disappear. Reappear 2-3 weeks before you go to the country. You gain nothing by chatting with this girl for 3 months when you haven’t even banged yet.
Just why are you even bothering considering this?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Why do we do the things we do? You could ask every guy that’s chasing tail here the very same question
If you were local to her, I would recommend acting on it. If she were local and she's unhappy in her relationship, she will be inclined to have sex with you if you present yourself as an compelling option for her.
You will not be in that country for another 3 months what is the point of building rapport?
I asked because this seems like a waste of time and energy. I go by the line by Dr. Robert Glover: “Walk through open doors”.
It does seem like a better option to reach out then, 3 months is nothing
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.