"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Met someone new - how interpret this ?

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I met someone through one of the dating sites. We met in person at a Restaurant/Bar nearby that has live music. It was alot of fun - we both liked it, and I could tell she liked me. Next day she sent me an email saying she enjoyed it. This girl is older (as I am) but I'd say she's a 9 easily - blonde hair, young looking skin, slim figure and knows how to dress. She is getting divorced and has two children.

First thing I'm wondering about is: she tells me from the start that she's very busy, won't have alot of time to get together (children, divorce, school in Fall) . Does this sound reasonable ? Seems like if she were interested she'd make time.

Second thing I notice is that she talks alot about "friends" and musicians that she has met in the past or may know now. I'm also getting the impression she has alot of "friends". She has guitar picks from a bunch of guitar players including a couple of famous ones. (I'm a pretty accomplished guitarist myself so this might explain her interest in me).
I'm getting the impression alot of this talk is her trying to impress me, that it might be half made up, but I'm not sure.
Does anyone have any perspective on this ? Maybe you met someone similar in the past ?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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My guess. This is a guess.

She is looking for a provider, or a friend to support her.



Who paid for dinner/drinks?




Be honest. Do you want a chick with two children and a record that she's not wanted by another man (divorce & whatever the excuse)???? Basically, if she wanted to fvck you'd fvck the first night.
 
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I paid, and it wasn't cheap for a first date. Most attractive older women have children so that's not unusual, and I like children anyway. I don't know why she's getting divorced, but I can tell you it's not her looks or
manner !
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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