"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Met someone new - how interpret this ?

BigFoot

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I met someone through one of the dating sites. We met in person at a Restaurant/Bar nearby that has live music. It was alot of fun - we both liked it, and I could tell she liked me. Next day she sent me an email saying she enjoyed it. This girl is older (as I am) but I'd say she's a 9 easily - blonde hair, young looking skin, slim figure and knows how to dress. She is getting divorced and has two children.

First thing I'm wondering about is: she tells me from the start that she's very busy, won't have alot of time to get together (children, divorce, school in Fall) . Does this sound reasonable ? Seems like if she were interested she'd make time.

Second thing I notice is that she talks alot about "friends" and musicians that she has met in the past or may know now. I'm also getting the impression she has alot of "friends". She has guitar picks from a bunch of guitar players including a couple of famous ones. (I'm a pretty accomplished guitarist myself so this might explain her interest in me).
I'm getting the impression alot of this talk is her trying to impress me, that it might be half made up, but I'm not sure.
Does anyone have any perspective on this ? Maybe you met someone similar in the past ?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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ViciousDADogg

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My guess. This is a guess.

She is looking for a provider, or a friend to support her.



Who paid for dinner/drinks?




Be honest. Do you want a chick with two children and a record that she's not wanted by another man (divorce & whatever the excuse)???? Basically, if she wanted to fvck you'd fvck the first night.
 

BigFoot

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I paid, and it wasn't cheap for a first date. Most attractive older women have children so that's not unusual, and I like children anyway. I don't know why she's getting divorced, but I can tell you it's not her looks or
manner !
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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