Ok I am a high school senior and I took a high school senior to lunch today. She was an ex of mine but I heard she liked me so I was being pretty confident. We were holding hands and at the end of lunch when we got to school I went in for a kiss because I am retarted and she said she is not like that. I feel like such a doofus. Would I guess right saying she hates me?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Messed up today
- Thread starter bud_2005
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
LuckyDevil6
Don Juan
I would probably just say that she doesn't want her friends to see her kissing an old ex.. because maybe they'd think shes a slut for getting back with her boyfriend??
thats my opinion anyways..
thats my opinion anyways..
AdrenalynJunkee
Don Juan
If you're holding hands, she doesn't hate you. She propably meant that she doesn't want to rush into things, simple as that. Plus, in school, around her friends, with her ex, kissing? Eh, not every girl wants to be labeled. Especially since her friends know you two are not going out. Yet.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Dimebag_Darrell
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watch Scarface
LongDrinkofWater
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Bud, it's probably all good.
I agree with a couple of others here who say that she acted that way because she was at school. I'd bet if she were alone with you she'd have kissed you.......
I agree with a couple of others here who say that she acted that way because she was at school. I'd bet if she were alone with you she'd have kissed you.......
Microphone Fiend
Master Don Juan
blah...you went for the kiss and she said no, you now know that she doesnt like you that way or plays games. Move on to the next person
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
To keep this short,
bud_2005:
I do not trust her intentions. She shows signs of interest, yet blatently refuses to move up a level.
Move on from your ex. She is toying with you.
I do not know her personally so I can not make a proper hypothesis, however she seems to be the girl who loves to be loves. An attention *****. She wants you to reciprocate her "love." She wants to KNOW her ex still bears feelings, since the break-up.
bud_2005:
I do not trust her intentions. She shows signs of interest, yet blatently refuses to move up a level.
Move on from your ex. She is toying with you.
I do not know her personally so I can not make a proper hypothesis, however she seems to be the girl who loves to be loves. An attention *****. She wants you to reciprocate her "love." She wants to KNOW her ex still bears feelings, since the break-up.