Ok I am a high school senior and I took a high school senior to lunch today. She was an ex of mine but I heard she liked me so I was being pretty confident. We were holding hands and at the end of lunch when we got to school I went in for a kiss because I am retarted and she said she is not like that. I feel like such a doofus. Would I guess right saying she hates me?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Messed up today
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
LuckyDevil6
Don Juan
I would probably just say that she doesn't want her friends to see her kissing an old ex.. because maybe they'd think shes a slut for getting back with her boyfriend??
thats my opinion anyways..
thats my opinion anyways..
AdrenalynJunkee
Don Juan
If you're holding hands, she doesn't hate you. She propably meant that she doesn't want to rush into things, simple as that. Plus, in school, around her friends, with her ex, kissing? Eh, not every girl wants to be labeled. Especially since her friends know you two are not going out. Yet.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Dimebag_Darrell
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LongDrinkofWater
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Bud, it's probably all good.
I agree with a couple of others here who say that she acted that way because she was at school. I'd bet if she were alone with you she'd have kissed you.......
I agree with a couple of others here who say that she acted that way because she was at school. I'd bet if she were alone with you she'd have kissed you.......
Microphone Fiend
Master Don Juan
blah...you went for the kiss and she said no, you now know that she doesnt like you that way or plays games. Move on to the next person
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
To keep this short,
bud_2005:
I do not trust her intentions. She shows signs of interest, yet blatently refuses to move up a level.
Move on from your ex. She is toying with you.
I do not know her personally so I can not make a proper hypothesis, however she seems to be the girl who loves to be loves. An attention *****. She wants you to reciprocate her "love." She wants to KNOW her ex still bears feelings, since the break-up.
bud_2005:
I do not trust her intentions. She shows signs of interest, yet blatently refuses to move up a level.
Move on from your ex. She is toying with you.
I do not know her personally so I can not make a proper hypothesis, however she seems to be the girl who loves to be loves. An attention *****. She wants you to reciprocate her "love." She wants to KNOW her ex still bears feelings, since the break-up.