Men, Where Have You Gone? Please Come Back.

[MatureDJ]

https://www.nytimes.com/2025/06/20/style/modern-love-men-where-have-you-gone-please-come-back.html

Men, Where Have You Gone? Please Come Back. - The New York Times | Ghostarchive

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[BaronOfHair]

"We're Netflixing and chilling, while you ladies are f-cking around on Instagram. That's equality"

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

54 year old lady wonders where all the men have gone.

That's like a homeless meth head thinking the global money supply has vanished simply because he's broke.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

54 year old lady wonders where all the men have gone.

That's like a homeless meth head thinking the global money supply has vanished simply because he's broke.

Or a delusional soul with narrow pathways of thinking that grow increasing constricted with each passing year as they sink into a deep dark hole of desperation while thinking they can see.

 

[Dash Riprock]

Women: "Men, Where Have You Gone? Please Come Back."

Men: For what?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

They have been dwindling for a long time...with average testosterone levels for 22 year old males barely above 400 now, the equivalent of what an average 70 year old man had in the 1960s, sadly this will only continue getting worse, not better until they address the actual problem and underlying cause.

Which I don't think is going to happen since they have known about it for at least 45 years, watching a near steady and constant 1% decline in male T levels every year since then.

I mean, maybe when the average male needs TRT injections to undergo puberty(likely within the next 50 years at this rate) they might actually think there is a problem, or they might just try and continue to explain it all away with their BS excuses like they have for the last 4+ decades.

 

[BadBoy89]

The article has no meaning, the woman who wrote it is 54.

Now if she was 24, hot, and hadn’t slept with the football team, then OK, she may have a point, But 54? Honey, you are lucky someone even cared to post it.

 

[Barrister]

I stopped reading after a few paragraphs. These word salads these women write are always veiled insults towards men. Here, she acts like men are some rudimentary automatons that just want some fast and loose stimulation and if we can’t get it we check out. Hence, women who appreciate all the subtleties of life at a higher plane of existence continue to be willing to go out even alone if we men won’t give them the dates they crave.

Give me a break. We here know way better. It is women who have systemically been conditioned to behave in ways that go against their own nature by our pathetic society and (some) men are (finally) responding to it. I will show attention to a woman who is earning it. It has zero to do with me pouting because of some notion of instant gratification not being given to me like author writes.

Where they even come up with this drivel is beyond me.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

The article has no meaning, the woman who wrote it is 54.

Now if she was 24, hot, and hadn’t slept with the football team, then OK, she may have a point, But 54? Honey, you are lucky someone even cared to post it.

Just because you don't like the messenger doesn't mean the message is wrong.

 

[plumber]

They have been dwindling for a long time...with average testosterone levels for 22 year old males barely above 400 now, the equivalent of what an average 70 year old man had in the 1960s, sadly this will only continue getting worse, not better until they address the actual problem and underlying cause.

Which I don't think is going to happen since they have known about it for at least 45 years, watching a near steady and constant 1% decline in male T levels every year since then.

I mean, maybe when the average male needs TRT injections to undergo puberty(likely within the next 50 years at this rate) they might actually think there is a problem, or they might just try and continue to explain it all away with their BS excuses like they have for the last 4+ decades.

what is the underlying cause ? BTW: your view on this topic is spot on.

 

[BadBoy89]

Just because you don't like the messenger doesn't mean the message is wrong.

Doesn't mean the message is right.

Generally society does not care for the point of view of 54 year old woman.

 

[BaronOfHair]

We have limited influence over the way women(or anyone else) think and behave, and ZERO control over such things, lads. As pertains to men ourselves... Well, much of this stuff is cyclical https://www.bbc.com/news/magazine-25943326


Quote: "Then the tide turned again. In 2007 Observer columnist Barbara Ellen wrote of metrosexual men: "Could it be that post-feminism has created its own Frankenstein's monster? The man who is so like a woman he's unfanciable?"

The past decade has been yet another era in which "The New Man"/Sensitive New Age Guy was hip. Potential cause for mild optimism: By '09, that was falling out of fashion, so much so that https://campaignbrief.com/don-draper-heads-most-influent/ We may be reaching another such tipping point today

 

[Manure Spherian]

They have been dwindling for a long time...with average testosterone levels for 22 year old males barely above 400 now, the equivalent of what an average 70 year old man had in the 1960s, sadly this will only continue getting worse, not better until they address the actual problem and underlying cause.

Which I don't think is going to happen since they have known about it for at least 45 years, watching a near steady and constant 1% decline in male T levels every year since then.

I mean, maybe when the average male needs TRT injections to undergo puberty(likely within the next 50 years at this rate) they might actually think there is a problem, or they might just try and continue to explain it all away with their BS excuses like they have for the last 4+ decades.

This is not why men walked away.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

This is not why men walked away.

Never underestimate how much your hormones control your mind which controls your actions.

 

[Manure Spherian]

Never underestimate how much your hormones control your mind

Oh yes. But with the intellect men have bypassed hormones and walked away because of:

1. The life-destroying divorce industry (90% of divorces involving children are initiated by women, mostly with no fault of the men).
2. The outrageous expectations, solipsism, thrill seekingand narcissism of “modern women” (no such thing).
3. Widespread misandry.
4. Fake crimes (“sexual harassment,” metoo, “stalking,” “date rape” ex post facto).

I obviously haven’t walked away and if I were single, wouldn’t. But I’d be informed of the above points.

 

[Solomon]

The title is right the content is wrong, but this is from a 54 year old who is invisible.
I've noticed with older women either they are very intentional about their dating/mating strategy
Or they are a hot mess, doing age-gap dating and dealing with crap because that's all they know or think they should deal with
Older women also tend to be very jaded and the few who aren't tend to be snatched up asap

 

[LTG71]

Good point. This lady is 54 and has had decades of experiences. Now post prime she is wondering why she‘s not getting approached like she did in her 20’s.

She met guys at Playboy for crying out loud. Far different world. As an older person, I laugh at the irony of women complaining about Playboy and Maxim back in the day. They complained that It made women into nothing but sex objects. Now Instagram and Onlyfans is flooded with the same material, driven by the women themselves.

 

[Manure Spherian]

They complained that It made women into nothing but sex objects. Now Instagram and Onlyfans is flooded with the same material, driven by the women themselves.

Women signed up to to do porn by their own volition since the start of the industry. Yet people say they were LURED into it. Now with OF they produce it with no luring from any agent, producer, director, or whoever.

 

[SW15]

this is from a 54 year old who is invisible.

In real life, a 54 year old woman would be invisible to near invisible.

However, a 54 year old woman in 2025 (born 1970-1971) can be very visible if she uses Match, OurTime, or a swipe app. She can go from being approached in real life less than 10 times per year to having hundreds of options. A woman born in 1971 can use a dating website/app today to have more interest than she had in her prime in the 1990s.

There are plenty of thirsty beta older men and even some thirsty younger men that will express interest in her.

 

[Manure Spherian]

Where are people getting the notion that 54 year old women are invisible.

Oh yes. But with the intellect men have bypassed hormones and walked away because of:

1. The life-destroying divorce industry (90% of divorces involving children are initiated by women, mostly with no fault of the men).
2. The outrageous expectations, solipsism, thrill seekingand narcissism of “modern women” (no such thing).
3. Widespread misandry.
4. Fake crimes (“sexual harassment,” metoo, “stalking,” “date rape” ex post facto).

I obviously haven’t walked away and if I were single, wouldn’t. But I’d be informed of the above points.

Some sensible replies on X.