Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
That is the most awesome follow up post ever.bigneil said:Note: this should not include sex with prostitutes.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Ummm....I was completely honest.KarmaSutra said:This thread is as worthless as asking a woman how many guys she's had drop a load in her.
None will be completely honest, therefore this is rendered to masturbation.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Thank you thank you, so I guess I'm now a DJ since I'm the average range? Lol. Totally kidding about being a DJ now. I have a long way to go still.bigneil said:The reason I don't count hookers is because this is a PUA site and I'm curious how many women the members have picked up, not how many women they paid. That said, I have nothing against an occasional hooker. I think 10% of so is a good hooker percentage.
Note: 21 women is just about the average of this site, so not bad.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Of course, girls can get pregnant from swallowing cum....mustfirstregister said:BJ counts as having sex?
lmao! oh I love that answer, lol. If you count BJ as having sex then you are too young to be in this forum since you obviously don't know what sex is. Maybe the OP should have broken it down and said sexual intercourse (penetration), lol.Maxtro said:Of course, girls can get pregnant from swallowing cum....
Thanks! I like how that one breaks things down more. 30% virgins?? Only about 15% on this poll (Sosuave is working!) But the same exact percentage (74%) reported being with 10 or fewer women.Maxtro said:
It's amazing how often it comes up.jafyk said:lmao! oh I love that answer, lol. If you count BJ as having sex then you are too young to be in this forum since you obviously don't know what sex is. Maybe the OP should have broken it down and said sexual intercourse (penetration), lol.
That thread was my baby a while ago, I'm the guy who made it.bigneil said:Thanks! I like how that one breaks things down more. 30% virgins?? Only about 15% on this poll (Sosuave is working!) But the same exact percentage (74%) reported being with 10 or fewer women.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.